I wish to give a gift this Christmas. The gift of grief. Perhaps we need to say the gift of grieving? For 3 Saturday nights this holiday season we will meet to reflect on our loss,  support one another, and look for God in our grief. I will give you an assessment to help you find your place in the process of grief, and for our last night together we will write a letter to the one we grieve for. Please contact me if you wish to be part of these intimate Christmas gatherings.  Our dates are Saturday December 3, 10, 17 from 7-9 PM at my home. If you would like to participate by way of video telecast please  contact me at 5034405532, dr.glenmaiden@gmail.com, or Facebook.

 

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Grief

1.   Write a letter to whom you are grieving:   Dear    ,

2.   Include:

What are the feelings you are feeling?  Talk to the

person, tell them what you would say to have some

closure.  Include the following:

I am angry with you for……..

I appreciate you for……..

I thank you for……..

I hurt regarding…….

I always wanted……or, All I ever wanted was…….

I’m sorry………

I make amends for…….

I forgive you for………

I miss……….

I don’t miss…….

What I needed from you was……….

   If the person you are grieving died when you were many years younger, let them know who you are now; the true person you have become and possibly the person you would like to be in the future.

At this point, it may be very effective to step into the shoes of the person, and tell yourself what the person would say to you.

Say goodbye, in your own words.  You might visualize the person in your mind’s eye, and share a hug; tell them you may talk with them again, but must say goodbye for now.