People love the conversation of healthy sexuality. People of faith, atheists, agnostics, same sex, intersex, non binary, heterosexuals…all say the same things to me. They feel more whole after healthy sexuality conversations. So, I have been working on some healthy perspectives for single Christians living in a sexualized culture.  Here we go with the first round of “Ten Commandments of Intimacy for Single Christians.” Check it out, I would love to hear your input.

10 Commandments of Intimacy for Single Christians

Thou shalt love the Lord thy God with all thy heart mind and soul and love thy friends with the same healthy passion.

Teacher, which is the greatest commandment in the Law? Jesus replied: Love the Lord your God with all your heart and with all your soul and with all your mind.  And the second is like it: Love your neighbor as yourself. Matthew 22.36-40

Thou shalt connect in intimate moments with God when you drive, before meetings, when you lie down and when you rise for work.

These commandments that I give you today are to be on your hearts.  Impress them on your children. Talk about them when you sit at home and when you walk along the road, when you lie down and when you get up. Deuteronomy 6.6-7

Thou shalt love the image of God within you caring for your body, mind, and soul with compassion and gratitude.

Do not seek revenge or bear a grudge against anyone among your people, but love your neighbor as yourself. I am the Lord. Leviticus 19.18

Thou shalt share a moment of beauty each week with a friend.

One thing I ask from the Lord, this only do I seek: that I may dwell in the house of the Lord all the days of my life, to gaze on the beauty of the Lord and to seek him in his temple. Psalm 27.4

Thou shalt demonstrate non genital affection each day.

Therefore, as God’s chosen people, holy and dearly loved, clothe yourselves with compassion, kindness, humility, gentleness and patience. Colossians 3.12

Thou shalt give thy story as a gift to a friend daily.

Therefore encourage one another and build each other up, just as in fact you are doing. 1 Thessalonians 5.11

Thou shalt laugh often with thy friends.

…a time to weep and a time to laugh, a time to mourn and a time to dance…. Ecclesiastes 3.4

Thou shalt make meaning of thy pain with thy healing community of friends.

…and provide for those who grieve in Zion— to bestow on them a crown of beauty instead of ashes, the oil of joy instead of mourning, and a garment of praise instead of a spirit of despair. They will be called oaks of righteousness, a planting of the Lord for the display of his splendor. Isaiah 61.3

Thou shalt be content with sexual sobriety.

I am not saying this because I am in need, for I have learned to be content whatever the circumstances. I know what it is to be in need, and I know what it is to have plenty. I have learned the secret of being content in any and every situation, whether well fed or hungry, whether living in plenty or in want. Philippians 4.11-12

Thou shalt give thanks for the gift of singleness.

 I wish that all of you were as I am (single). But each of you has your own gift from God; one has this gift, another has that. 1 Corinthians 7.7