The Book of Genesis features 7 kinds of intimacy in chapters 1-4. Before sexual intercourse appears in Scripture the author of Genesis crafts the neural architecture of sexual arousal and long term relationships with the intimacies of: Spirituality, beauty, rest/regulation, pleasure, compassionate presence, reconciliation, and sexual intimacy.

7 Types of Intimacy Assessment: Parts 1 and 2

In the following assessment please write down one of three options for each question. 1 means low importance, 2 is moderate significance, and 3 means very important. Noble will then connect you to other clients based on similar intimacy traits. 

7 Types of Intimacy Assessment: Part 1

1.The Intimacy of Spirituality

Spiritual connection with a higher power is the core of my important relationships.

2. The Intimacy of Beauty

I enjoy beauty in nature, humanity, and art.

3. The Intimacy of Leisure and Rest

Leisure and rest are a high value for me in a long term relationship.

4. The Intimacy of Pleasure

I am satisfied with my life and simple pleasures.

5. The Intimacy of Compassionate Presence

Being with a partner in compassionate awareness is a value to me. 

6. The Intimacy of Sexual Health

Sexual health with a long term partner is essential.

7. The Intimacy of Conflict Resolution

Healthy conflict resolution is key for my long term relationships.

7 Types of Intimacy Assessment: Part 2

Part 2 takes a deeper dive for a couple seeking intimacy. In the following assessment please select one of three options for each question. 1 means low importance, 2 is moderate significance, and 3 means very important. This may help you strengthen a connection.

I find myself praying several times a day other than at mealtime.

My social media posts have many pics of beautiful images.

I took a vacation last year.

I take pleasure in delicious food.

My friends report that I show them compassion when they feel trauma.

Sharing private parts without shame in a long term committed relationship is important.

I made valid amends with my exes.

Last year I attended my house of worship in person or online for more than holy days.

I find joy in  the precision and balance of nature.

I get at least 6 hours of sleep each night and feel rested in the morning.

I am grateful for health, my home, my friends.

When my partner is hurting, I want to give comfort.

I feel no shame about my sexuality.

My partners report that I need to win every argument.

I feel comfort sharing the story of my higher power to others.

I have art pieces in my home.

Planning fun and recreation was part of my routine last week.

I enjoy hobbies like reading, gardening, fishing or golfing without feeling guilt.

I am aware when my partner is sad and I try to meet the need.

Sexual health conversations with my partner including boundaries with consent are easy for me.

I forgive and forget past hurts with my partner.

I give money and time serving spiritual causes.

Watching a sunset, smelling Spring flowers, sitting still listening to birds make me happy.

I calmed myself by resting last week.

I enjoy sexual feelings without acting upon them.

I have compassion for my partner and my own personal sexual trauma history.

I take responsibility for my own orgasm.

I can receive refusals for sexual intimacy without anger or hostility.

I reflect upon sacred texts of my faith and apply them to my life.

I enjoy blue cloudless skies and the beauty of a baby’s toothless grin.

I took time off from work without guilt last year.

Last week I took pleasure in reading, crafting, listening to music, or a simple inexpensive hobby.

Though painful, I willingly attend funerals to bring comfort to the grieving.

Awareness of my partner’s sexual arousal during intercourse is important for sexual health.

My belief helps me to mitigate guilt and shame.

Add up the 7 colors representing the intimacies. Then compare with your partner. This can help with compatibility, and visioning for the future.

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