Doctoral Project: The Bible and Sexual Health for Children

The Bible and Sexual Health for Children Ages 4-10

This doctoral project examines the sexual health narratives of the Bible for parents, clergy, and counselors of children age 4-10.  With this project will be a parallel video series for children.

The objectives are:

to provide sex positive sexual health guiding principles for caregivers, clergy, and counselors of children ages 4-10 based on Biblical narratives, neuroscience, and clinical sexology.

to provide sex positive sexual health videos for children ages 4-10

Guiding Principles:

This doctoral project will not judge morality, the approach will be to examine sexual health narratives for guiding principles.  

The project will encourage parents and sexual health educators  to blend guiding principles with their own family mores. 

The project will focus on  sexual health as attachment through intimate relationships with their higher power, family and self.

This project will use Scripture to interpret Scripture in the tradition of evidence based Biblical Theology.

The project will examine Intimacy as theological hermeneutic:

The project will assess the sexual health narratives in terms of seeing our higher power, and being seen, “Seeing my partner, and my partner sees into me”, intimacy.  The current state of Evangelicalism is one of a loss of intimacy and PFC disablement.  Gray matter deficit of attachment disorder will be examined in terms of processing relationships. We will  assist caregivers to teach children to down regulate and connect to God in compassion in awareness.  The project will teach regulation of sexual neuro pathways through compassion, awareness, and balance.  

The prophets indicted the people of Israel for their loss of intimacy, lack of knowledge of God.   Hosea will treat the sex addiction of his partner with compassion and awareness. 

Intimacy disorder will be examined and recovering addiction by lowering shame, and connecting to intimate relationships.

The Biblical Narratives are:

The Law and Sexual Health

Genesis: Image of God as sex positive, sex as intimacy, a Christian history of Onan and masturbation, sexual health as narrative and not mandate

God is the greatest good one can think, God is healthy, then sexuality as the image of God is healthy,  personal responsibility in sexual health, incest narrative Noah,

Exodus: Healthy Boundaries, sexual health and the mandates

Leviticus: Sexual Mandates as sexual health conversation

Numbers: The Story of Our Families

Deuteronomy: Healthy Boundaries

The Prophets and Sexual Health

Joshua: PTSD and Sexuality

Judges as Sexual Nihilism

Samuel and Kings: King David and Dissociation: David’s gift was the ability to repent, become compassionately aware of God

Solomon and Addiction: Sexual Politics, Pornography as current sexo politics

Isaiah and sexual health images: Idolatry and Addiction

Jeremiah and sexual health images: Marriage and Idolatry Metaphors

Ezekiel and sexual health images

The Minor prophets and  sexual health images

The Writings and Sexual Health

Psalms

Proverbs

Song of Solomon  as Sex Addiction

Job

Ruth

Daniel and Intersexuality

Chronicles

The Gospels-Acts, and Sexual Health

Jesus and the Image of God: Single, celibate, without sex scandal, The Bridegroom Images

Jesus and Intersexuality: Matthew 19 and Acts: The Eunuch

Jesus and Fantasy Sex

Jesus and the Samaritan Woman John 4 Trauma Bonding

Jesus and the Woman caught in adultery; no condemnation

Masturbation in the New Testament

The Pauline Epistles and Sexual Health

No Judgment of the sexuality of others, rather the focus is personal responsibility and sexual health:  Romans 1-2

Paul and sexual health: Corinthians and boundaries, Galatians and the work of the flesh as limbic system, Ephesians mutual surrender, Timothy and boundaries

Singleness and Intimacy; Volker’s Eight Kinds of Intimacy

The General Epistles and Sexual Health

Revelation Sexual Health Images: The prostitute, the bridegroom, Rev 22 and sexually unhealthy exist outside the kingdom of God.

Literature Review

Catholicism and Sexuality

Protestantism and Sexuality: Martin Luther denouncing  clergy sex with boys

The 60’s sexual revolution

The 80’s AIDs epidemic

Y2K Internet sexual revolution

Japanese Study 2010

The Sexual Politics of Divorce within Evangelicalism

Christian History of Masturbation

Hope for Abusive Relationships

 

You and I live in the golden age of recovery. Neuroscience has finally caught up with the recovery community and agrees that the brain can change. The toughest addictions can heal. Trauma can rewire into strength. The pattern of abusive relationships can end.

Trauma bonding is the neurological phenomenon of becoming attached to abusive relationships.  Look back at your life, family, coworkers…do you see a history of falling in love with abusive people?

During periods of trauma, the pituitary gland transfers neuropeptides, specifically oxytocin and vasopressin. These chemicals react to create the warm feelings of bonding. Your puppy cries, you pick it up and caress…the touch releases oxytocin and vasopressin to soothe pain.  The neuropeptides are the primary chemicals in the body to down regulate anxiety.

 

 

Grow up with caregivers who hurt you. The brain shapes to attach to them. Your body needs the down regulation from anxiety they provide. By the age of four the brain has shaped to how your caregivers soothed you.  If their touch came with anger, violence, or threat…you now have the potential to attach to abuse for the rest of your life…until you attend to the trauma bond.

So, you had great caregivers? You attach well to others, you feel secure?  These same neurological processes in Trauma Bonding can work whenever we experience trauma. The soldier who survives war becomes a mercenary. The survivor of sexual assault chooses the sex trade, the partner of an alcoholic remarries another alcoholic…and so on. The Trauma Bond is neuroscience 101 for any painful event.

Below I am listing the Twelve Steps for Trauma Bonding, 12TB.  I have worked these in my own life and with my clients for years. I would love your input.

Let’s work on step one today.  How do you feel about your relationships? Healthy? Unhealthy?  The trauma bond touches the earliest years of brain development before we have memory to recall.  Can you make a timeline of your relationships? Do you see patterns of hurt and violence?

The first step is bringing trauma bonds to conscious awarness so we can attend to them.

This is the hardest part for me…admitting that I am a magnet to attract abusive relationships and permit them to hurt me.

Hope is near. Admit. Pray. Give your trauma to God. He is near and can relieve you of the shame and pain. If not, get another Higher Power who can do this healing work.

Twelve Steps for Trauma Bonding (12TB)

1. We admitted we were powerless over our attachment to perpetrators – that our lives had become unmanageable by shame driven abusive relationships.

2. Came to believe that a power greater than ourselves could restore our traumatic bonding to wholeness and sanity.

3. Made a decision to turn our will and lives over to the compassion of God as we understood God.

4. Made a searching and fearless moral inventory of our shame based unhealthy relationships.

5. Admitted to God, to ourselves, and to another human being, the exact nature of our shame based relationships.

6. Were entirely ready to have God transform our shame based trauma bonding to perpetrators.

7. Humbly asked God to remove our attachment to unhealthy people.

8. Made a list of all persons including ourselves we had harmed and became willing to make amends to them all.

9. Made direct amends to such people including ourselves wherever possible, except when to do so would injure them or others.

10. Continued to take personal inventory of our relationships and when unhealthy we  promptly admitted it.

11. Sought through prayer and meditation to improve our conscious contact with God as we understood God, praying only for knowledge of God’s will for us and the power to carry that out.

12. Having had a spiritual awakening as the result of these steps, we tried to carry this message to others with trauma bonds, and to practice personal contentment in all our relationships.

Does God Care for My Pain?

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“My life has no meaning to God.”

You cannot argue with me that

“God has sympathy for my pain.”

Because at the end of the day

I loathe myself.

You see, I believed the lie that

His beauty and grace exist in me.

I need God Himself to show me

His kindness and

Hate cannot separate me from the truth of,

“I am created in the image of God”

Because no matter what

His Compassion cannot change my pain.

Looking at my reflection I question God asking if

“Am I a hopeless mess?”

Now, read this piece backwards.

“Am I a hopeless mess?”

Looking at my reflection I question God asking if

His Compassion cannot change my pain?

Because no matter what

“I am created in the image of God”

Hate cannot separate me from the truth of

His kindness and

I need God Himself to show me

His beauty and grace exist in me.

You see, I believed the lie that

I loathe myself.

Because at the end of the day

“God has sympathy for my pain.”

You cannot argue with me that

“My life has no meaning to God.”

Hope Institute for Pastoral Counseling and Professional Christian Coaching (HIPC), Instituto Hope de Consejería Pastoral y Coaching Profesional Cristiano (HIPC)

Hope Institute for Pastoral Counseling and Professional Coaching (HIPC) is a ministry of Hope Gathering of Christ, a 501c3 non profit.

The vision of Hope Gathering of Christ reaches addicts, their families, survivors of the sex trade, and Native Americans with the compassion of God.

The HIPC mission statement is, “Passionately Leading Others into the Beauty of Holiness and Wholeness”.

Objectives:

to provide training for pastoral counseling and Christian coaching  using Scripture and current
neuroscientific research providing integrity through certification, licensing, and ordination.

to equip servants of the Gospel with transformational Biblical tools

to attend to the top reasons for the breakdown of the family by treating unhealthy sexuality and finances with healthy sexuality and a Biblical theology of money.

to increase the outreach of a local church

to deepen the spirituality of the counselor and coach with counselees and coaching clients

to provide certification and accountability for Pastoral Counseling and Coaching

to license gifted and qualified candidates for ministry

to ordain called and gifted candidates for the local church

to provide New Testament Greek, Old Testament Hebrew, and Biblical Aramaic consultation for key passages

to hold high ethical standards and evidence based best practices preventing liability for the pastoral counselor and church board; HIPC counselors consent to zero tolerance for abuse and “Do no harm” pastoral counseling practices. HIPC counselors agree to abstain from romantic conversation, sexual innuendo, or genital sexual intercourse with clients.

to provide household income for the pastoral counselor and coach using these tools

HIPC’s  curriculum covers four tracks over 48 one hour sessions. The tracks are:

Scripture and Neuroscience

Scripture and Sexual Health

Scripture and Trauma

Scripture and the Spirituality of Money

Please download the free app, HOPE XP, for curriculum specifics.

You will find the training intensely personal. Spiritual assessments are used to examine neurological financial wiring, sexuality, and relationship connections. You will be taught how God can change neuropathways Scripturally and neurologically.

Tuition is paid by way of suggested donation of:

2900 USD for 48 sessions including four tracks of study

Additional student fees are:

230 USD for graduation documents

87 USD for Paypal convenience fee: this fee can be avoided by using a check if you choose

Students will also need to purchase the books: The Treasure by Dr. Glen Maiden, The Body Keeps the Score by van der Kolk, Man’s Search for Meaning by Frankl. HIPC students report that the homework and preparation are not prohibitive for those in full time ministry or career.

Group sessions are accessed online with Zoom, a video conference chat platform. Each week your session and homework will be confirmed by electronic message.

Dr. Glen is an ordained Christian minister with over 35 years of senior pastor experience. He earned two doctorates: PhD in Clinical Sexology and Doctor of Ministry in the neuroscience and theology of recovery.  Dr. Glen earned certifications in Sex Addiction Therapy, Financial Disorders, and trauma treatment. He holds full licensure as a mental health counselor in the State of Washington.  He received his BA in Bible and Biblical Languages at Asbury University, Masters in New Testament and Christian Education from Grand Rapids Theological Seminary, and Doctor of Ministry in the neuroscience and theology of recovery from Western Theological Seminary, and PhD in Clinical Sexology from the International Institute of Clinical Sexology in Miami, Florida.

Hope Institute for Pastoral Counseling and Professional Coaching (HIPC) es un ministerio de Hope Gathering of Christ, una organización sin fines de lucro 501c3.

La visión de Hope Gathering of Christ llega a los adictos, sus familias, los sobrevivientes del comercio sexual y los nativos americanos con la compasión de Dios.

La declaración de misión de HIPC es: “Conducir apasionadamente a otros hacia la belleza de la santidad y la totalidad”.

Objetivos:

proporcionar capacitación para la consejería pastoral y el entrenamiento cristiano usando las Escrituras y las
investigación neurocientífica que proporciona integridad a través de la certificación, la concesión de licencias y la ordenación.

equipar a los servidores del Evangelio con herramientas bíblicas transformadoras

atender las principales razones de la ruptura de la familia al tratar la sexualidad y las finanzas no saludables con una sexualidad saludable y una teología bíblica del dinero.

para aumentar el alcance de una iglesia local

profundizar la espiritualidad del consejero y entrenador con aconsejados y clientes de entrenamiento

para proporcionar certificación y responsabilidad para el asesoramiento y entrenamiento pastoral

licenciar a candidatos dotados y calificados para el ministerio

ordenar candidatos llamados y dotados para la iglesia local

proporcionar consulta en griego del Nuevo Testamento, hebreo del Antiguo Testamento y arameo bíblico para pasajes clave

mantener altos estándares éticos y mejores prácticas basadas en evidencia que eviten la responsabilidad del consejero pastoral y la junta de la iglesia; Los consejeros de HIPC aceptan la tolerancia cero para el abuso y las prácticas de asesoramiento pastoral de “no hacer daño”. Los consejeros de HIPC acuerdan abstenerse de conversaciones románticas, insinuaciones sexuales o relaciones sexuales genitales con los clientes.

para proporcionar ingresos familiares para el consejero pastoral y el entrenador usando estas herramientas

El plan de estudios de HIPC cubre cuatro pistas en 48 sesiones de una hora. Las pistas son:

Escritura y neurociencia

Las Escrituras y la Salud Sexual

Escritura y Trauma

La Escritura y la Espiritualidad del Dinero

Descargue la aplicación gratuita, HOPE XP, para conocer los detalles del plan de estudios.

Encontrará el entrenamiento intensamente personal. Las evaluaciones espirituales se utilizan para examinar el cableado financiero neurológico, la sexualidad y las conexiones en las relaciones. Se le enseñará cómo Dios puede cambiar las vías neurológicas bíblicamente y neurológicamente.

La matrícula se paga mediante la donación sugerida de:

2900 USD por 48 sesiones que incluyen cuatro pistas de estudio

Las tarifas adicionales para estudiantes son:

230 USD para documentos de graduación

87 USD para la tarifa de conveniencia de Paypal: esta tarifa se puede evitar mediante el uso de un cheque si lo desea

Los estudiantes también necesitarán comprar los libros: The Treasure por el Dr. Glen Maiden, The Body Keeps the Score por van der Kolk, Man’s Search for Meaning por Frankl. Los estudiantes de HIPC informan que la tarea y la preparación no son prohibitivas para quienes están en el ministerio o la carrera a tiempo completo.

Se accede a las sesiones grupales en línea con Zoom, una plataforma de chat de videoconferencia. Cada semana su sesión y tarea serán confirmadas por mensaje electrónico.

El Dr. Glen es un ministro cristiano ordenado con más de 35 años de experiencia como pastor principal. Obtuvo dos doctorados: Doctorado en Sexología Clínica y Doctorado en Ministerio en neurociencia y teología de la recuperación. El Dr. Glen obtuvo certificaciones en terapia de adicción al sexo, trastornos financieros y tratamiento de traumas. Tiene licencia completa como consejero de salud mental en el estado de Washington. Recibió su licenciatura en Biblia e Idiomas Bíblicos en la Universidad de Asbury, su Maestría en Nuevo Testamento y Educación Cristiana en el Seminario Teológico de Grand Rapids, y su Doctorado en Ministerio en neurociencia y teología de la recuperación en el Seminario Teológico Occidental, y su doctorado en Sexología Clínica en el International Instituto de Sexología Clínica en Miami, Florida.

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Please contact Dr. Glen directly at pastorglenmaiden@hopegatheringchrist.com or 503-440-5532.

Comuníquese con el Dr. Glen directamente a pastorglenmaiden@hopegatheringchrist.com o al 503-440-5532.

Spirituality and Compassion

 

This piece speaks to the spirituality of compassion.

One of the primary names of God is Compassion.

And the Lord said, “I will cause all my goodness to pass in front of you, and I will proclaim my name, the Lord, in your presence. I will have mercy on whom I will have mercy, and I will have compassion on whom I will have compassion.

and none of the condemned things are to be found in your hands. Then the Lord will turn from his fierce anger, will show you mercy, and will have compassion on you. He will increase your numbers, as he promised on oath to your ancestors—

But the Lord was gracious to them and had compassionand showed concern for them because of his covenant with Abraham, Isaac and Jacob. To this day he has been unwilling to destroy them or banish them from his presence.

If you return to the Lord, then your fellow Israelites and your children will be shown compassion by their captors and will return to this land, for the Lord your God is gracious and compassionate. He will not turn his face from you if you return to him.”

They refused to listen and failed to remember the miracles you performed among them. They became stiff-necked and in their rebellion appointed a leader in order to return to their slavery. But you are a forgiving God, gracious and compassionate, slow to anger and abounding in love. Therefore you did not desert them,

“Because of your great compassion you did not abandon them in the wilderness. By day the pillar of cloud did not fail to guide them on their path, nor the pillar of fire by night to shine on the way they were to take.

So you delivered them into the hands of their enemies, who oppressed them. But when they were oppressed they cried out to you. From heaven you heard them, and in your great compassion you gave them deliverers, who rescued them from the hand of their enemies.

“But as soon as they were at rest, they again did what was evil in your sight. Then you abandoned them to the hand of their enemies so that they ruled over them. And when they cried out to you again, you heard from heaven, and in your compassion you delivered them time after time.

Psalm 51 ] [ For the director of music. A psalm of David. When the prophet Nathan came to him after David had committed adultery with Bathsheba. ] Have mercy on me, O God, according to your unfailing love; according to your great compassion blot out my transgressions.

When its twigs are dry, they are broken off and women come and make fires with them. For this is a people without understanding; so their Maker has no compassion on them, and their Creator shows them no favor.

The Lord will surely comfort Zion and will look with compassion on all her ruins; he will make her deserts like Eden, her wastelands like the garden of the Lord. Joy and gladness will be found in her, thanksgiving and the sound of singing.

Praise and Prayer ] I will tell of the kindnesses of the Lord, the deeds for which he is to be praised, according to all the Lord has done for us— yes, the many good things he has done for Israel, according to his compassion and many kindnesses.

After that, declares the Lord, I will give Zedekiah king of Judah, his officials and the people in this city who survive the plague, sword and famine, into the hands of Nebuchadnezzar king of Babylon and to their enemies who want to kill them. He will put them to the sword; he will show them no mercy or pity or compassion.’

“This is what the Lord says: “‘I will restore the fortunes of Jacob’s tents and have compassion on his dwellings; the city will be rebuilt on her ruins, and the palace will stand in its proper place.

Is not Ephraim my dear son, the child in whom I delight? Though I often speak against him, I still remember him. Therefore my heart yearns for him; I have great compassion for him,” declares the Lord.

then I will reject the descendants of Jacob and David my servant and will not choose one of his sons to rule over the descendants of Abraham, Isaac and Jacob. For I will restore their fortunes and have compassion on them.’”

“How can I give you up, Ephraim? How can I hand you over, Israel? How can I treat you like Admah? How can I make you like Zeboyim? My heart is changed within me; all my compassion is aroused.

“I will deliver this people from the power of the grave; I will redeem them from death. Where, O death, are your plagues? Where, O grave, is your destruction? “I will have no compassion,

Rend your heart and not your garments. Return to the Lord your God, for he is gracious and compassionate, slow to anger and abounding in love, and he relents from sending calamity.

He prayed to the Lord, “Isn’t this what I said, Lord, when I was still at home? That is what I tried to forestall by fleeing to Tarshish. I knew that you are a gracious and compassionate God, slow to anger and abounding in love, a God who relents from sending calamity.

“I will strengthen Judah and save the tribes of Joseph. I will restore them because I have compassion on them. They will be as though I had not rejected them, for I am the Lord their God and I will answer them.

Jesus called his disciples to him and said, “I have compassion for these people; they have already been with me three days and have nothing to eat. I do not want to send them away hungry, or they may collapse on the way.”

So he got up and went to his father. “But while he was still a long way off, his father saw him and was filled with compassion for him; he ran to his son, threw his arms around him and kissed him.

Imitating Christ’s Humility ] Therefore if you have any encouragement from being united with Christ, if any comfort from his love, if any common sharing in the Spirit, if any tenderness and compassion,

As you know, we count as blessed those who have persevered. You have heard of Job’s perseverance and have seen what the Lord finally brought about. The Lord is full of compassion and mercy.

 

The Spirituality of Jesus for Women

Jesus was single, celibate, and without abuse scandal. This is why Jesus frames the spirituality I love.

The compassion of Christ has healed the trauma of billions of people for millennia. One piece you will not see in the narrative of Christ is abuse. Why was there not a culture of abuse toward women in Jesus’ leadership as we see in modern Evangelical politics?

Let’s go through the list of current cultures of abuse: My mentor Bill Hybels was forced to retire along with the resignation of his successor pastor and entire Elder board because of mishandled sexual misconduct allegations. Rob Coy, pastor of the largest Chuck Smith Church in North America resigned amid allegations of grooming a child for sex, genital sexual affair, and pornography. 5000 clergy have been identified as sexual predators.  The most recent sexual misconduct disclosure targets Baptist clergy.

When abuse takes place, culture must be addressed. A dominant who has power over submissives manipulates for sexual gratification.  The dom which means (Lord) creates a culture of bondage for the submissive so that she cannot seek safety.  Bill Hybels allegedly seduced staff behind closed doors. The victims did not disclose for years due to the power and popularity of celebrity status.  Rob Coy allegedly groomed a child for sex; “How can a successful man of God with so many Sunday attendees prey on a child?  Impossible, we say.”  A priest committed to celibacy swims with children and fondles them. He succeeds because the parents of the victims assure the children that he is “safe” and he represents God when administering the sacraments. Abuse takes place in a culture of power; the dominant forces himself over the submissive victim.  In fact, may I suggest that the current religious overtones of the dominant submissive relationship between men and women of faith does not come from Scripture but from the pornography industry? The primary teacher of male female boundaries is not the church, it’s the porn culture normalized among Christian leadership.

Jesus served in humility until his voluntary death. He gave His life to be the payment for the violence of mankind. He taught that true leadership serves others, takes its place at the end of the line and allows others to “be first.”  Jesus took on the form of a slave and humbled himself.  He did not fight for position, he surrendered to the power of God.  Women felt safe with him. He lived with humble healthy boundaries for both women, men, and children.

Let’s look at some specifics about the culture of humility Jesus created in the first century.

Leaders are not celebrities in Jesus’ mind but rather servants guiding from the back of the line giving their lives for the people they love.

Specifically, leadership in marriage will look like a husband who sacrifices himself for his wife as Jesus gave himself to the cross of humiliation.

Jesus appointed women to lead and gave them speaking and teaching roles in the church.

Jesus’ chosen celibacy demonstrates his honorable relationship with women.

Jesus died a martyr’s death and his final words were not revenge but care for his mother.

Jesus calls himself the bridegroom, and the church his bride. These images carry healthy sexual overtones and Jesus never exploits the church he loves.

Let’s look at a broader view of the Biblical idea that God does not put women in a place of bondage and abuse.

In Genesis Adam and Eve live in healthy relationship with each other and God. There is no suggestion that the first couple in a state of wholeness are anything other than mutual and consensual. When sin enters, the balance shifts to the dominant and submissive model of relationship.  In a state of defiance and alienation from God a culture of power differential emerges and the abuse narrative in Scripture begins.

Jesus transforms this paradigm. He inspires Paul the Apostle, to state that there are no dominants or submissives in the Church only those who are one in Christ.

Deborah the Judge leads, teaches, and judges men.  Clearly God did not intend for her to be a submissive in a dom culture lording over women.

Mary the mother of Jesus takes a supreme role in the birth of the Messiah. She is given all the honor due one of such status.

The Scripture in 1 Timothy 2 prohibiting women to teach is one of the tragic mistranslations which has abused women for millennia.  Women are not prohibited to teach in the church.

Women held office in the first century church. Phoebe, female, was a Deacon, the masculine term for a church officer.

Time to stop abusing women using the porn industry as a model to force women into positions of submission for the abuse of the perpetrator, yes?

May I suggest some healthy conversation?

What if we follow Jesus rather than the porn addict politics of domination and submission? All are one in Christ.

Jesus redeems the story of abuse by not only his compassion toward women, but his enduring boundaries of honor and respect.

Check out these passages:

Galatians 3:28

28 There is neither Jew nor Gentile, neither slave nor free, nor is there male and female, for you are all one in Christ Jesus.

Philippians 2: Imitating Christ’s Humility

Therefore if you have any encouragement from being united with Christ, if any comfort from his love, if any common sharing in the Spirit, if any tenderness and compassion, then make my joy complete by being like-minded, having the same love, being one in spirit and of one mind. Do nothing out of selfish ambition or vain conceit. Rather, in humility value others above yourselves, not looking to your own interests but each of you to the interests of the others.

In your relationships with one another, have the same mindset as Christ Jesus:

Who, being in very nature[a] God,
    did not consider equality with God something to be used to his own advantage;
rather, he made himself nothing
    by taking the very nature[b] of a servant,
    being made in human likeness.
And being found in appearance as a man,
    he humbled himself
    by becoming obedient to death—
        even death on a cross!

Therefore God exalted him to the highest place
and gave him the name that is above every name,
10 that at the name of Jesus every knee should bow,
in heaven and on earth and under the earth,
11 and every tongue acknowledge that Jesus Christ is Lord,
to the glory of God the Father.

 

Matthew 20: A Mother’s Request

20 Then the mother of Zebedee’s sons came to Jesus with her sons and, kneeling down, asked a favor of him.

21 “What is it you want?” he asked.

She said, “Grant that one of these two sons of mine may sit at your right and the other at your left in your kingdom.”

22 “You don’t know what you are asking,” Jesus said to them. “Can you drink the cup I am going to drink?”

“We can,” they answered.

23 Jesus said to them, “You will indeed drink from my cup,but to sit at my right or left is not for me to grant. These places belong to those for whom they have been prepared by my Father.”

24 When the ten heard about this, they were indignant with the two brothers. 25 Jesus called them together and said, “You know that the rulers of the Gentiles lord it over them, and their high officials exercise authority over them. 26 Not so with you. Instead, whoever wants to become great among you must be your servant, 27 and whoever wants to be first must be your slave— 28 just as the Son of Man did not come to be served, but to serve, and to give his life as a ransom for many.”

Ephesians 5

25 Husbands, love your wives, just as Christ loved the church and gave himself up for her 26 to make her holy, cleansing[b] her by the washing with water through the word, 27 and to present her to himself as a radiant church, without stain or wrinkle or any other blemish, but holy and blameless. 28 In this same way, husbands ought to love their wives as their own bodies. He who loves his wife loves himself. 29 After all, no one ever hated their own body, but they feed and care for their body, just as Christ does the church— 30 for we are members of his body.31 “For this reason a man will leave his father and mother and be united to his wife, and the two will become one flesh.”[c] 32 This is a profound mystery—but I am talking about Christ and the church. 33 However, each one of you also must love his wife as he loves himself, and the wife must respect her husband.

1 Timothy 2:11

12 I do not permit a woman to teach or to assume authority over a man;[b] she must be quiet.

The operative word in this passage misguiding generations is the word, “assume authority over a man.”  The Greek word is authentein. It appears only once on the Scriptures and is formed from two Greek words, autos and thanatos, which mean self murdering.  Have you seen the character Thanos in the Marvel series?  This is the root for his name. Thanos means death and embodies a nihilistic narcissism to destroy half of mankind. Paul is not prohibiting women to teach, he is mandating that women not destroy in the process of teaching. Paul then uses the illustration of Eve’s seduction of Adam and how that teaching event went sideways for all mankind. Eve jacked up Adam in a dom sub relationship. Don’t be like Eve. The word quiet means more on the order of kind rather than “keep your mouth shut” kind of silence.

Romans 16: Personal Greetings

16 I commend to you our sister Phoebe, a deacon of the church in Cenchreae.

Colossians 3: Living as Those Made Alive in Christ

Since, then, you have been raised with Christ, set your hearts on things above, where Christ is, seated at the right hand of God. Set your minds on things above, not on earthly things. For you died, and your life is now hidden with Christ in God.When Christ, who is your[a] life, appears, then you also will appear with him in glory.

Put to death, therefore, whatever belongs to your earthly nature: sexual immorality,impurity, lust, evil desires and greed, which is idolatry. Because of these, the wrath of God is coming.[b] You used to walk in these ways, in the life you once lived. But now you must also rid yourselves of all such things as these: anger, rage, malice, slander, and filthy language from your lips. Do not lie to each other, since you have taken off your old self with its practices 10 and have put on the new self, which is being renewed in knowledge in the image of its Creator. 11 Here there is no Gentile or Jew, circumcised or uncircumcised, barbarian, Scythian, slave or free, but Christ is all,and is in all.

12 Therefore, as God’s chosen people, holy and dearly loved, clothe yourselves with compassion, kindness, humility, gentleness and patience. 13 Bear with each other and forgive one another if any of you has a grievance against someone. Forgive as the Lord forgave you. 14 And over all these virtues put on love, which binds them all together in perfect unity.

15 Let the peace of Christ rule in your hearts, since as members of one body you were called to peace. And be thankful. 16 Let the message of Christ dwell among you richly as you teach and admonish one another with all wisdom through psalms, hymns, and songs from the Spirit, singing to God with gratitude in your hearts. 17 And whatever you do, whether in word or deed, do it all in the name of the Lord Jesus, giving thanksto God the Father through him.

Instructions for Christian Households

18 Wives, submit yourselves to your husbands, as is fitting in the Lord.

19 Husbands, love your wives and do not be harsh with them.

20 Children, obey your parents in everything, for this pleases the Lord.

21 Fathers,[c] do not embitter your children, or they will become discouraged.

22 Slaves, obey your earthly masters in everything; and do it, not only when their eye is on you and to curry their favor, but with sincerity of heart and reverence for the Lord.23 Whatever you do, work at it with all your heart, as working for the Lord, not for human masters, 24 since you know that you will receive an inheritance from the Lord as a reward. It is the Lord Christ you are serving. 25 Anyone who does wrong will be repaid for their wrongs, and there is no favoritism.

1 Corinthians 14

29 Two or three prophets should speak, and the others should weigh carefully what is said. 30 And if a revelation comes to someone who is sitting down, the first speaker should stop. 31 For you can all prophesy in turn so that everyone may be instructed and encouraged. 32 The spirits of prophets are subject to the control of prophets.33 For God is not a God of disorder but of peace—as in all the congregations of the Lord’s people.

34 Women[f] should remain silent in the churches. They are not allowed to speak, but must be in submission, as the law says. 35 If they want to inquire about something, they should ask their own husbands at home; for it is disgraceful for a woman to speak in the church.[g]

36 Or did the word of God originate with you? Or are you the only people it has reached? 37 If anyone thinks they are a prophet or otherwise gifted by the Spirit, let them acknowledge that what I am writing to you is the Lord’s command. 38 But if anyone ignores this, they will themselves be ignored.[h]

39 Therefore, my brothers and sisters, be eager to prophesy, and do not forbid speaking in tongues. 40 But everything should be done in a fitting and orderly way.

1 Corinthians 11

11 Follow my example, as I follow the example of Christ.

On Covering the Head in Worship

I praise you for remembering me in everything and for holding to the traditions just as I passed them on to you. But I want you to realize that the head of every man is Christ, and the head of the woman is man,[a] and the head of Christ is God. Every man who prays or prophesies with his head covered dishonors his head. But every woman who prays or prophesies with her head uncovered dishonors her head—it is the same as having her head shaved.

The context of this passage is Paul correcting the Corinthians for disorderly worship in their house churches. Men sat at the front of the room, women sat in the back.  Paul addresses the entire congregation when he gives them directions about orderly address in the congregation. Both men and women are praying and prophesying in the worship gathering. The context and flow indicate all were participating, speaking in tongues, praying, and prophesying. Why then, the parenthetical about women and silence?  One Sunday morning I was preaching in the inner city war zone church. The young moms sat in the back of the auditorium near the nursery. The purpose for their seating location was easy exit in the event of an infant meltdown or diaper blowout. During the teaching, I heard a great furor in the back row. The young moms were passing their babies down the row, laughing, and carrying on. Apparently one of the children was being super cute. I could not help but think of Paul…”Ladies, please…calm down…keep down the noise…can you finish this riotous conversation during a coffee or lunch?”

Judges 4: Deborah

Again the Israelites did evil in the eyes of the Lord, now that Ehud was dead. So the Lord sold them into the hands of Jabin king of Canaan, who reigned in Hazor.Sisera, the commander of his army, was based in Harosheth Haggoyim. Because he had nine hundred chariots fitted with iron and had cruelly oppressed the Israelites for twenty years, they cried to the Lord for help.

Now Deborah, a prophet, the wife of Lappidoth, was leading[a] Israel at that time.She held court under the Palm of Deborah between Ramah and Bethel in the hill country of Ephraim, and the Israelites went up to her to have their disputes decided.She sent for Barak son of Abinoam from Kedesh in Naphtali and said to him, “The Lord, the God of Israel, commands you: ‘Go, take with you ten thousand men of Naphtali and Zebulun and lead them up to Mount Tabor. I will lead Sisera, the commander of Jabin’s army, with his chariots and his troops to the Kishon River and give him into your hands.’”

Barak said to her, “If you go with me, I will go; but if you don’t go with me, I won’t go.”

 

God has always honored and encouraged gifted leadership in women. He does today.

 

 

 

 

 

Fantasy Sex!

Jesus on Fantasy Sex with Current Neuroscience

Jesus spoke about the most beautiful places of our lives.  At the core of his  teachings lies a theme of healthy sexuality.  Jesus, single and celibate, lived without sex scandal in the first century. His immediate twelve disciples whom he commissioned to launch the early community of Christians have no history of sexual misconduct.  History reveals no allegations, no redacted special counsel reports, no impeachments, no church discipline or political drama for their sexual behaviors.  Healthy sexuality formed a beautiful part of the Gospel narrative of the first century.

As I look back at thirty years of pastoring Evangelical churches, I thoroughly enjoyed the life change of the Christian faith.  Having baptized hundreds of people for Christ, I would do that all over again.  One of the frequent and painful stories however forms around sexual misconduct among church leadership.  In my twenties Jim Bakker and Jimmy Swaggert, famed television evangelists, headlined national media for the authority rape of a subordinate, cover up with payoff, and ongoing addiction to prostitutes.  The ripple effect of their abuses generated reports of nationwide decrease in church giving. In the 90’s sexual misconduct headlines turned toward Cathoiic Priests and the rape of parish children.  5000 priests have been identified for sexual misconduct. Hundreds of Baptist ministers recently have been accused of unhealthy sexuality and misconduct against their congregations. In 2014 Pastor Rob Coy who led the largest Chuck Smith Calvary Church in North America resigned for allegations of child sexual assault, pornography and an affair.  Recently my mentor Bill Hybels of Willow Creek Community Church in Chicago was forced to retire amidst a maelstrom of sexual misconduct allegations. An independent group investigated the charges. They concluded credible evidence existed to discipline the celebrity pastor for sexual misconduct.  He pastored one of the largest churches in America. I looked to him for guidance for years.

The sexual misconduct events in my own ministry support the global story.  A single woman stood up in a testimony meeting of avowed holiness practitioners and declared publicly she was having intercourse with one of their pastors. In that same era a renowned pastor preaching abstinence and sexual purity was convicted of raping a preadolescent girl for years.  An Elder had a lifetime addiction to prostitutes. His pimp attempted to extort the Elder by “outing him” in the community. A staff member publicly reported a  lifetime addiction to porn and rage. He reported his addiction began with lingerie ads in catalogs.  When he used porn, he raged at staff and church folk. I project he watched a great amount of porn due to his chronic violent outbreaks of violence.  Numerous Elders and their spouses reported to me problematic use of porn. One Elder’s wife stated to me, “I can tell when he uses porn, he turns his rage at me.” These are the stories in my personal pastoral ministry over 30 years.

While waiting for my mentors to repent and make amends for sexual misconduct allegations, I wish to pause and apologize to the thousands of people I have led over the years. Although I performed the obligatory “don’t have sex outside of marriage messages” I never cast a vision for healthy sexuality for people of faith. This is a massive failure on my part.  Part of me would like to blame my mentors who committed acts of sexual misconduct, but a valid amends requires personal responsibility rather than finger pointing.  I was wrong not to offer healthy sexuality conversations to the children of the church. I was misguided in my “Just say, no, to fornication” Evangelical morality. I was wrong. I am so sorry.

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The repentance and passion during this  season of my life is to vision cast the beauty and balance of healthy sexuality in the faith story I love.  The Good Report of Jesus is that God loves broken people, His compassion drives His forgiveness, and He cleanses addictive shame.  At that point of belief God’s ongoing Spirit presence of comfort and hope connects and transforms broken people into His compassionate character.  The image of God reflects healthy sexuality for both single people of faith and married.

Jesus’ Sermon on the Mount beginning in Matthew 5 gives meaning to what life is like trusting in and loving God in Christ. At the center of this conversation is a healthy sexuality exhortation to encourage people like you and me. Jesus speaks of fantasy sex. Let’s visit this portion of the sermon. I have included  the complete text of the Sermon Message on relationship wholeness in the notes to honor your time.

Adultery

Matthew 5:27 “You have heard that it was said, ‘You shall not commit adultery.’28 But I tell you that anyone who looks at a woman lustfully has already committed adultery with her in his heart. 29 If your right eye causes you to stumble, gouge it out and throw it away. It is better for you to lose one part of your body than for your whole body to be thrown into hell. 30 And if your right hand causes you to stumble, cut it off and throw it away. It is better for you to lose one part of your body than for your whole body to go into hell.

48 Be perfect, therefore, as your heavenly Father is perfect.”

Jesus speaks of maturity in this opening piece. He touches physical violence, then inner resentment with character assassination followed immediately about rage filled sexual fantasy. He climaxes the narrative with a statement on maturity.   Notice verse 48. “Be perfect, therefore, as your heavenly Father is perfect.” The word Jesus uses is maturity, complete, whole. This teaching piece speaks of healthy intimate relationships as a follower of Christ by laying  the foundation for relationship success.  A mature person in relationship with a partner has the inner strength of character to honor Godly boundaries by attending to shame, anger, amends, sexual fantasy, marital integrity, truth telling, resentment/retaliation, and loving one’s enemies.  What if these points run in one vein?  What if these are not disjointed thoughts but in fact form the base of relationship wholeness? Is Jesus not speaking about relationship maturity?

At the center of this  conversation is angry fantasy sex.  Why?  I wonder if it is not because of the power of rage and fantasy?  Let’s examine the Biblical text to discover the fairest interpretation we can, and then examine the neuroscience of fantasy.

The word for lust Jesus uses means eroticized rage.  The word is not simply feeling sexual feelings, the word carries the weight of violence. The root word for lust always means wrath in the New Testament.  Please see the notes for the full explanation.

Research on the fantasies of women during intercourse shows that over 60% of women in the study had fantasies involving violent sex and eroticized rage.  Do you see the connection between fantasy sex and rage? Please forgive the graphic nature of this data.

“The team of researchers lead by Dr Jenny Bivona, based at the University of North Texas found that overall, 62% of participants reported having a rape fantasy of some type.Of the women who reported having the most common rape fantasy, ‘being overpowered or forced by a man to surrender sexually against my will,’ 40% had it at least once a month and 20% had it at least once a week. The authors conclude these results indicate rape fantasies play a significant role in the sexual fantasy lives of many women.”

The word lust in Jesus’s sermon in Matthew 5  connects clearly to the passion of fantasy sex carrying the weight of anger and rage.

50% of women by the time they are 18 in the U.S have been sexually assaulted.(8) The alarming statistics on sexual violence against women cut broadly across all walks of life. A 2014 study,(9) for example, found that 20% of female scientists were victims of sexual assault in the workplace.  However, the anonymity and chaos of large crowds increase the risk of sexual assault on women, even on a crowded subway, but a mass celebration can inflame extreme mob behavior victimizing women.https://www.psychologytoday.com/us/blog/the-new-brain/201601/the-explosive-mix-sex-and-violence

If I fantasize about a body part like an arm, the image triggers arm neuro architecture in the brain.  This is the beginning of the arm behaving differently.  The fantasy of an arm, impacts the neurology of the arm turning on specific brain circuits. These circuits create arm movement. The change in brain circuitry together with the new arm movement then mutates the DNA molecules of the arm. The arm is now different in the way it acts because the brain circuitry has been altered by the fantasy.  Fantasy has the power to change molecular DNA.

“DNA is a dynamic and adaptable molecule. As such, the nucleotide sequences found within it are subject to change as the result of a phenomenon called mutation. Depending on how a particular mutation modifies an organism’s genetic makeup, it can prove harmless, helpful, or even hurtful.” https://www.nature.com/scitable/topicpage/dna-is-constantly-changing-through-the-process-6524898

A Christian college graduate reported he had problematic sexuality.  He became addicted to the fantasy of porn in a process called rapid onset addiction. He viewed and fantasized to porn and the images then react with sexual neuro pathways in the brain which then impact sex organs. Sexual neuro pathways are now changed, sexual function changes, and ultimately DNA alters.  One researcher calls this “experience taking.” He entered into the fantasy and became the story.  In a short period of time the fantasy of porn changed the structure of his brain and an addict system wired. The user cannot stop fantasy porn without serious withdrawal symptoms similar to arousal drugs like cocaine.  He is now addicted to fantasy with porn. His drive for porn and its fantasy replaces his need for intimacy with his wife. 

His partner discovered the porn on his computer and felt traumatized that his allegiance was for other women rather than herself.  She confronted her husband but the fantasy porn continued. She raged out at his infidelity by having a sexual affair with another man.  The husband and wife reconciled. In the light of the affair and boundaries set by his wife, he continued to use fantasy porn and now they are separated. He does not have the power to stop using fantasy porn even under the threat of losing his marriage.  So, did the fantasy not change the structure of his brain and the ability to have a healthy mature relationship? Did not the fantasy become his reality? Or on another level, did his fantasy not change the reality of his relationship with his wife? Was not this  story embedded with not only lust, but anger and rage?

“Our work shows that what we imagine in our ‘mind’s eye’ can lead to changes in perception across our sensory systems, changing how we perceive real information from the world around us in the future.”https://www.newsweek.com/ventriloquist-illusion-imagining-object-can- change-how-we-experience-sound-884810

“The researchers found that reading either the idiomatic or the literal sentences that had to do with the arm activated the motor and premotor cortex concerned with the arm, and reading the idiomatic and literal sentences that had to do with the leg activated the parts of the motor and premotor cortex concerned with the leg. Comprehension of the idioms, then, appears to involve a mental-neurological version of the actions indicated by the idiom. Boulenger et al. argue that this shows that figurative abstract language can be grounded in concrete sensory-motor information and its specific brain circuits.” https://www.psychologytoday.com/us/blog/the-psychology-fiction/ 201204/the-imagined-and-the-real

The partner of the fantasy porn user reported to me that she pursued the affair because her paramour made her feel, “truly beautiful and desirable” as opposed to her husband who found gratification and intimacy in porn fantasies rather than his partner.

I had another client whose marriage was “done”. He had a decade old addiction to porn and fantasy plus “staring” at other women. When he and his wife were in public, he became entranced by other women, staring at them. His wife reported that he often followed the women for whom he fantasied around grocery stores, or in a transcendent state tracked waitresses walking away from their table…for years. When she discovered that his fantasies expanded to porn stars, she was through with the marriage.

Enter shame as a motive for fantasy porn.  The porn addict husband came to me in desperation.  The treatment for his fantasy porn use was the thin red line separating him from losing a thirty year marriage. As we examined his narrative as a child, he reported that his mother was distant and cold. She presented an aloofness unable to care for him. On one occasion she inadvertently exposed herself. The trauma of the abandonment of his mother, and the exposure wired together in his brain. After the exposure, he found himself addicted to catalogue lingerie ads.  Post puberty he added drugs and prostitutes to his sexual architecture. This type of addiction differs from rapid onset addiction. This client felt traumatized by abandonment from his mother with a baseline of shame, never feeling good enough.  His fantasy “staring” behaviors sought to connect with the caretaker he needed as a boy and relieve his shame.  In his fantasies he found acceptance from the porn stars.  The staring at real women in public felt like they might become a possible caregiver.  Do you see once again that the fantasy altered the reality of his intimate relationship with his wife?   In treatment we worked on the shame based thinking, wrote a letter to his mother to deactivate resentment neuro pathways,  built a spirituality of compassion and love, and finally made amends with his wife. A few months later I performed a renewal marriage ceremony for them on the beach.

“In experience taking, although in a sense we remain ourselves, we can also become the character about whom we read: the story-character’s thoughts and feelings become our own. We might think that we have just one life to lead, but fiction enables us to lead many lives, and to experience being many kinds of person. “ https://www.psychologytoday.com/us/blog/the-psychology-fiction/201208/entering- anothers-experience

Fantasy changes brain structure, muscle movement, molecular DNA, and can create an altered reality more important than relationship intimacy.

“The brain sometimes creates something that psychologists call the ventriloquist illusion. As the name suggests, this is the effect harnessed by a ventriloquist and their dummy. It occurs when we see an object and hear a sound from a different source but the brain wrongly understands it as coming from the visual stimulus.  And if we experience this pairing repeatedly the illusion will persist as an aftereffect, even when the visual stimulus is gone and we only hear the sound.

The sensory information we imagine is often treated by the brain in the same way as information streaming into us from the outside world,” explained researcher Christopher C. Berger of the California Institute of Technology.”

https://www.newsweek.com/ventriloquist-illusion-imagining-object-can- change-how-we-experience-sound-884810

Our DNA is not determined. Molecular DNA changes.  We can impact that change for healthy or unhealthy traits.  DNA, the blueprint of who we are can be changed by fantasy.  This change then impacts the reality of not only ourselves, but our children and children’s children.

Jesus reflects the image of God’s character in the Sermon on the Mount.  There seems to be nothing flippant or legalistic. The words move toward healing relationships and specifically sexuality.

So let’s look at building a life based on reality rather than fantasy.  First, one must understand how fantasy operates in neural architecture. Fantasy  neural pathways receive their energy from shame.  What is the shame underneath the fantasy?  Can you identify it?  Can you speak to your therapist or support group about the source of the shame? Diminish the shame, the fantasy weakens.  Increase shame, fantasies escalate.  Second, replace the fantasy or porn with a healthy relationship. This need not be a genital sexual relationship. Fantasy is less about sex and more about shame.  You can choose a therapist, a safe friend, or a group.  Give your brain ninety days to rewire.  A Yale University study recently proved that the brain can rewire addiction neural pathways in three months. (Please see the  article on Neuroplasticity Citations in the notes.) Can you abstain for ninety days?  Turn in your electronics, surrender your objects of fantasy.  Porn blocking software can help but is not the final answer.  Thirdly, When you feel the  urge to fantasize, use the bounce technique. Brain chemicals transferring in the fantasy neural pathway take approximately three seconds to engage the circuitry.  Bounce your eyes away from the object of fantasy and do a long three count. Fourth, develop your spirituality by writing out your prayers. Talk to God about your fantasies with underlying shame…use code please. Write nothing legible you don’t want to see in court.  The act of writing your emotion connects the language side of the brain with the relationship region  of the brain. Writing and praying rewire the brain in powerful ways. Does anger or rage attach to your fantasies?  Make amends without harm to anyone. Forgiveness with compassion lies at the core of our faith story.  Research has shown that prayer helps alcoholics drink less. Also, prayer can help the urge of fantasy and anger neural pathways. Finally, build a spiritual community of rich friendships who have the ability to replace fantasy and rage with reality.  Fill the fantasy void with people who love you and support you.

Jesus is smart and he gets us.  He understands that at the core of broken relationships lies shame. So, in the Sermon on the Mount Jesus lays out what healthy relationships look like. Mature healthy relationships among people of faith attend to shame, anger, amends, marital integrity, truth telling, resentment/retaliation, and loving the least likely. At the center of this encouragement Jesus, single and celibate without sex scandal attends to eroticized rage of Fantasy Sex. This is why I am a Christian. The integrity and beauty of the words and way of Christ still move me. And to my mentors the world waits for your apology… compassion will attend to words of amends.

Dr. Glen is a pastor of over thirty years. He has a private faith based therapy practice in Gearhart, Oregon. Glen earned a doctorate studying the Theology and Neuroscience of Addiction Recovery, holds certifications in Sex Addiction Therapy, Financial Disorders, Post Traumatic Stress Disorder Treatment, and a license for mental health.  Dr. Glen is currently in PhD studies for Clinical Sexology, as a way to redeem lost years and reconcile people of faith with healthy sexuality. He has been married for 38 years to the same amazing woman. Glen enjoys saying, “She still likes me… most of the time.”  He has three adult children whom he loves and admires, and four completely perfect grandchildren.

Notes:

The Fulfillment of the Law

Matthew 5:17 “Do not think that I have come to abolish the Law or the Prophets; I have not come to abolish them but to fulfill them. 18 For truly I tell you, until heaven and earth disappear, not the smallest letter, not the least stroke of a pen, will by any means disappear from the Law until everything is accomplished. 19 Therefore anyone who sets aside one of the least of these commands and teaches others accordingly will be called least in the kingdom of heaven, but whoever practices and teaches these commands will be called great in the kingdom of heaven. 20 For I tell you that unless your righteousness surpasses that of the Pharisees and the teachers of the law, you will certainly not enter the kingdom of heaven.

Murder

21 “You have heard that it was said to the people long ago, ‘You shall not murder,[a] and anyone who murders will be subject to judgment.’ 22 But I tell you that anyone who is angry with a brother or sister[b][c] will be subject to judgment. Again, anyone who says to a brother or sister, ‘Raca,’[d] is answerable to the court. And anyone who says, ‘You fool!’ will be in danger of the fire of hell.

23 “Therefore, if you are offering your gift at the altar and there remember that your brother or sister has something against you, 24 leave your gift there in front of the altar. First go and be reconciled to them; then come and offer your gift.

25 “Settle matters quickly with your adversary who is taking you to court. Do it while you are still together on the way, or your adversary may hand you over to the judge, and the judge may hand you over to the officer, and you may be thrown into prison. 26 Truly I tell you, you will not get out until you have paid the last penny.

Adultery

27 “You have heard that it was said, ‘You shall not commit adultery.’[e] 28 But I tell you that anyone who looks at a woman lustfully has already committed adultery with her in his heart. 29 If your right eye causes you to stumble, gouge it out and throw it away. It is better for you to lose one part of your body than for your whole body to be thrown into hell. 30 And if your right hand causes you to stumble, cut it off and throw it away. It is better for you to lose one part of your body than for your whole body to go into hell.

Divorce

31 “It has been said, ‘Anyone who divorces his wife must give her a certificate of divorce.’[f] 32 But I tell you that anyone who divorces his wife, except for sexual immorality, makes her the victim of adultery, and anyone who marries a divorced woman commits adultery.

Oaths

33 “Again, you have heard that it was said to the people long ago, ‘Do not break your oath, but fulfill to the Lord the vows you have made.’ 34 But I tell you, do not swear an oath at all: either by heaven, for it is God’s throne; 35 or by the earth, for it is his footstool; or by Jerusalem, for it is the city of the Great King. 36 And do not swear by your head, for you cannot make even one hair white or black. 37 All you need to say is simply ‘Yes’ or ‘No’; anything beyond this comes from the evil one.[g]

Eye for Eye

38 “You have heard that it was said, ‘Eye for eye, and tooth for tooth.’[h] 39 But I tell you, do not resist an evil person. If anyone slaps you on the right cheek, turn to them the other cheek also. 40 And if anyone wants to sue you and take your shirt, hand over your coat as well. 41 If anyone forces you to go one mile, go with them two miles. 42 Give to the one who asks you, and do not turn away from the one who wants to borrow from you.

Love for Enemies

43 “You have heard that it was said, ‘Love your neighbor[i] and hate your enemy.’ 44 But I tell you, love your enemies and pray for those who persecute you, 45 that you may be children of your Father in heaven. He causes his sun to rise on the evil and the good, and sends rain on the righteous and the unrighteous. 46 If you love those who love you, what reward will you get? Are not even the tax collectors doing that? 47 And if you greet only your own people, what are you doing more than others? Do not even pagans do that? 48 Be perfect, therefore, as your heavenly Father is perfect.

Jesus uses the Greek word epithumeo for the English term lust or fantasy sex.  Lust in English has a different meaning than the Greek. Lust in English usage means enthusiastic desire. When connected to sex it means unhealthy, uncontrolled, and even lecherous sexual behavior.  In Greek and Hebrew the word lust has a different emphasis of anger and rage.

Let’s unpack epithumeo from its roots.  Epi is a preposition meaning on or upon.  Epi can give a heightened sense of emphasis or passion to a word.  Thumeo is the verb stemming from the classic Greek noun thumos.  Thumos derives from the ancient word to sacrifice, thuo.  The Greek verb thuo is similar to the Greek noun for God, theo.  Thuo literally means a violent movement of air, water, ground, animals or people.  Thumos is a vital life force moving, flowing, changing the elements of life. It can mean to billow as in the smoke of a sacrifice.  Sacrifices change the relationship between people and their gods by appeasing the deities.  Thumos therefore means in its ancient usage a passionate desire like rage.  Plato and Thucydides used the word in the sense of spirit, anger, or rage.  In the Septuagint, the Greek translation of the Hebrew Bible, the word is frequently used for anger.  (Kittel V. 3, p. 167)

In the New Testament the word thumos always means wrath.  Thumos as wrath is often connected to the word for rage, orge.  Epithumeo in the New Testament means an “anxious self seeking” with undertones of  sexuality and rage. In therapist language we call this eroticized rage.   (Kittle V3, p. 171).

The uses of epithumeo in the New Testament are divided into two groups. Intense desire for sex and passionate desire for godliness.  Six references relate to unhealthy sexuality and eight citations connect to other passions. Please see the word useage analysis

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lust

noun

intense sexual desire or appetite.

uncontrolled or illicit sexual desire or appetite; lecherousness.

a passionate or overmastering desire or craving (usually followed by for ):

a lust for power.

ardent enthusiasm; zest; relish:

an enviable lust for life.

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verb (used without object)

to have intense sexual desire.

to have a yearning or desire; have a strong or excessive craving (often followed by for or after ).

https://www.dictionary.com/browse/lust

Citations:

Women Fantasy During Intercourse

https://psycnet.apa.org/record/1974-32460-001

Sexual Fantasies

https://www.psychologytoday.com/us/blog/slightly-blighty/201508/womens-sexual-fantasies-the-latest-scientific-research

Jesus uses the Greek word epithumeo for lust. Lust in English has a different meaning than the Greek. Lust in English usage means enthusiastic desire. When connected to sex it connects unhealthy, uncontrolled, and even lecherous sexual behavior.  In Greek and Hebrew the word lust has a different emphasis of anger and rage.

Epi is a preposition meaning on or upon.  Epi can give a heightened sense of emphasis or passion to a word.  Thumew is the verb stemming from the noun thumos.  Thumos derives from the ancient word to sacrifice, thuo.  The Greek verb thuo is similar to the Greek noun for God, theo.  Thuo literally means a violent movement of air, water, ground, animals or people.  Thumos is a vital life force moving, flowing, changing. It can mean to billow as in the smoke of a sacrifice.  Sacrifices change the relationship between people and their gods by appeasing the deities.  Thumos therefore means in its ancient usage a passionate desire like rage.  Plato and Thucydides used the word in the sense of spirit, anger, or rage.  In the Septuagint, the Greek translation of the Hebrew Bible, the word is frequently used for anger.  (Kittel V. 3, p. 167)

In the New Testament the word thumos always means wrath.  Thumos as wrath is often connected to the word for rage, orge.  Epithumeo in the New Testament means an “anxious self seeking” with undertones of  sexuality and rage. (Kittle V3, p. 171).

Interesting to note that the preceding teaching piece  in Matthew 5 focuses on rage in relationships.  The following statement on divorce is a metaphor for the death of covenant and its rage. Can you see the connections? Rage in relationships, rage in fantasy sex, and the pain and rage of divorce.

The uses of epithumeo in the New Testament are divided into two groups. Intense desire for sex and passionate desire for godliness or sin. Six references relate to unhealthy sexuality and 8 citations connect to a passion for Godliness or a drive for life and death.

Unhealthy Sexuality or Pleasure- 6 times

Godliness-4 times

Drive for Life or Death-4

Matt. 5: 28 Anyone who mentally sees a woman for the purpose of having sex with her….

13:17 Many prophets and righteous men passionately desired to view and mentally see….

Luke 15:16 He passionately hungered for the pods….

16:21 He passionately hungered for the scraps of food….

17:22 The days will come when you will be passionate to see one of the days of the son of man….

Acts 20:33 I have not passionately desired silver, gold, or clothing.

Romans 7:7 Except the law says, “Do not covet”. This most likely refers to coveting a neighbor’s wife for sex.

13:9 You shall not commit adultery, you shall not kill, you shall not steal,  you shall not covet….

1 Corinthians 10:6 So that we not be passionately desirous of evil….

Galatians 5:17 The flesh lusts against the spirit….

1 Timothy 3:1 If someone is passionate about the office of an elder, he desires an excellent thing….

Hebrews 6:11 We have passionate desire for each of you to show haste for the hope….

James 4;2 pleasures…you passionately desire…

Revelation 9:6  They will passionately desire to die, but death will escape them.

The word epithumeo in Jesus’s sermon in Matthew 5  connects clearly to the passion of fantasy sex carrying the weight of anger and rage.

lust

noun

intense sexual desire or appetite.

uncontrolled or illicit sexual desire or appetite; lecherousness.

a passionate or overmastering desire or craving (usually followed by for ):

a lust for power.

ardent enthusiasm; zest; relish:

an enviable lust for life.

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verb (used without object)

to have intense sexual desire.

to have a yearning or desire; have a strong or excessive craving (often followed by for or after ).

https://www.dictionary.com/browse/lust

Matt. 5: 28 Anyone who mentally sees a woman for the purpose of having sex with her….

13:17 Many prophets and righteous men passionately desired to view and mentally see….

Luke 15:16 He passionately hungered for the pods….

16:21 He passionately hungered for the scraps of food….

17:22 The days will come when you will be passionate to see one of the days of the son of man….

Acts 20:33 I have not passionately desired silver, gold, or clothing.

Romans 7:7 Except the law says, “Do not covet”. This most likely refers to coveting a neighbor’s wife for sex.

13:9 You shall not commit adultery, you shall not kill, you shall not steal,  you shall not covet….

1 Corinthians 10:6 So that we not be passionately desirous of evil….

Galatians 5:17 The flesh lusts against the spirit….

1 Timothy 3:1 If someone is passionate about the office of an elder, he desires an excellent thing….

Hebrews 6:11 We have passionate desire for each of you to show haste for the hope….

James 4;2 pleasures…you passionately desire…

Revelation 9:6  They will passionately desire to die, but death will escape them.

“DNA is a dynamic and adaptable molecule. As such, the nucleotide sequences found within it are subject to change as the result of a phenomenon called mutation. Depending on how a particular mutation modifies an organism’s genetic makeup, it can prove harmless, helpful, or even hurtful. Sometimes, a mutation may even cause dramatic changes in the physiology of an affected organism. Of course, in order to better understand the varying effects of mutations, it is first necessary to understand what mutations are and how they occur.” https://www.nature.com/scitable/topicpage/dna-is-constantly-changing-through-the-process-6524898

Recently, Rebecca Wells-Jopling and I (2012) proposed that metonymy is especially important in fiction because it invites an intimacy of the reader with the writer, or of the reader with a literary character, or of the reader with a book. A telling example that Rebecca had noticed was an incident in Virginia Woolf’s 1927 novel To the lighthouse. In the book, two characters, Minta and Paul were almost engaged. As they were sitting on a beach another character, Nancy, saw them there and thought they were kissing. Then—juxtaposed in the story—Minta discovers that she has lost her brooch. It had belonged to her grandmother. She searches everywhere on the beach, where she and Paul had been, and she is desperate to find it. So the scene of two people kissing on a beach is juxtaposed with the lost brooch. A reader reading thoughtfully, as Rebecca had been (though when I had read the book I had not noticed this) might think: “Why this association?” This question prompted Rebecca to ask what else might have been lost on the beach that afternoon. https://www.psychologytoday.com/us/blog/the-psychology-fiction/201301/metaphor-and-metonymy

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Reawakening the Warrior Spirit

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(Sarah Bond, my great great grandmother. She was a Native American woman of the plains states.  Because of her I have life,  This work is dedicated to her. My sobriety honors her Warrior Spirit.)

The Warrior Spirit is one piece of the image of God. Restoring the Warrior is central to Native American recovery. This article examines God the Warrior and the factors that contributed to the suppression of the Warrior Spirit among Native Americans.

If you have a Christian heritage, the Bible affirms that the Creator God is Warrior.

Exodus 15:3

“The LORD is a warrior; The LORD is His name.

Isaiah 42:13

The LORD will go forth like a warrior, He will arouse His zeal like a man of war He will utter a shout, yes, He will raise a war cry He will prevail against His enemies.

Native belief in the Creator Warrior is similar to Christianity.

When Native Americans were demilitarized, forced onto reservations, and deprogrammed in boarding schools,  the Warrior Spirit was suppressed.  The opportunity to express the Creator’s Image through the Warrior Spirit reawakened during world conflicts.  Native Americans joined the United States military in greater percentage than non Native Americans. The time is now to awaken the Warrior Spirit for our sobriety.

The pursuit of the Warrior Spirit is the journey of conscious awareness. The bravery, strength, compassion for comrades, tribe, and country overcame the fear of battle and produced some of the greatest heroes in human history.

Your sobriety is heroic.  You are reawakening the Warrior Spirit for our sobriety.

The Suppression of the Warrior Spirit 

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From the 1600s European Catholic and Protestant denominations sent missionaries to convert the tribes to Christianity. Some of these conversions occurred through government and Christian church cooperative efforts that forcibly removed Native American children from their families into a Christian/state government-operated system of American Indian boarding schools (aka The Residential Schools) where Native children were taught European Christian beliefs, the values of mainstream white culture, and the English language. This forcible conversion and suppression of Indigenous languages and cultures continued through the 1970s.

As part of the US government’s suppression of traditional Indigenous religions, most ceremonial ways were banned for over 80 years by a series of US Federal laws that banned traditional sweat lodge and sun dance ceremonies, among others.[4] This government persecution and prosecution continued until 1978 with the passage of the American Indian Religious Freedom Act (AIRFA).[5] wikipedia

“Our nation was born in genocide when it embraced the doctrine that the original American, the Indian, was an inferior race. Even before there were large numbers of Negroes on our shore, the scar of racial hatred had already disfigured colonial society. From the sixteenth century forward, blood flowed in battles over racial supremacy. We are perhaps the only nation which tried as a matter of national policy to wipe out its indigenous population. Moreover, we elevated that tragic experience into a noble crusade. Indeed, even today we have not permitted ourselves to reject or feel remorse for this shameful episode. Our literature, our films, our drama, our folklore all exalt it. Our children are still taught to respect the violence which reduced a red-skinned people of an earlier culture into a few fragmented groups herded into impoverished reservations.” Wikipedia

 Martin Luther King Jr.

The Carlisle Indian Industrial School, founded by the US Army officer Richard Henry Pratt in 1879 at a former military installation, became a model for others established by the Bureau of Indian Affairs (BIA). Pratt said in a speech in 1892, “A great general has said that the only good Indian is a dead one. In a sense, I agree with the sentiment, but only in this: that all the Indian there is in the race should be dead. Kill the Indian in him and save the man.”[13] Pratt professed “assimilation through total immersion.”[13]

As the model of boarding schools was adopted more widely by the US government, many Native American children were separated from their families and tribes when they were sent or sometimes taken to boarding schools far from their home reservations. These schools ranged from those similar to the federal Carlisle Indian Industrial School, which became a model for BIA-run schools; to the many schools sponsored by religious denominations.

In that period, when students arrived at the boarding schools, their lives usually altered dramatically. They were given short haircuts (a source of shame for boys of many tribes), uniforms, and English names; sometimes these were based on their own, other times they were assigned at random, and sometimes children chose new names. They were not allowed to speak their own languages, even between each other, and they were expected to attend church services and encouraged to convert to Christianity. Discipline was stiff in many schools (as it was in families and other areas of society), and it often included chores and punishments.[14]

The following is a quote from Anna Moore regarding the Phoenix Indian School:

“If we were not finished [scrubbing the dining room floors] when the 8 a.m. whistle sounded, the dining room matron would go around strapping us while we were still on our hands and knees.”[16]

The 1928 Meriam Report noted that infectious disease was often widespread at the schools due to insufficient funding for meals providing good nutrition, overcrowding, poor sanitary conditions (an element shared by many towns in the early 20th century) and students weakened by overwork. The report said that death rates for Native American students were six and a half times higher than for other ethnic groups.[16]wikipedia

Following is a list of boarding schools designed to remove the Warrior culture from Native children.

•Shawnee Boarding School, near Shawnee, Indian Territory, open 1876[95]–1918[96]

•Shawnee Boarding School, Shawnee, Oklahoma open 1923–61[25]

•Sherman Indian High School, Riverside, California[42]

•Shiprock Boarding School, Shiprock, New Mexico[41]

•Southwestern Indian Polytechnic Institute, Albuquerque, New Mexico[41]

•Spencer Academy (sometimes referred to as the National School of the Choctaw Nation),[97] near Doaksville, Choctaw Nation, Indian Territory open 1842–1900[98]

•Springfield Indian School, Springfield, South Dakota[41]

•Stewart Indian School, Carson City, Nevada[41]

•Sulphur Springs Indian School, Pontotoc County, Chickasaw Nation, Indian Territory[99] open 1896–98[25]

•Theodore Roosevelt Indian Boarding School, founded in 1923 in buildings of the U.S. Army’s closed Fort Apache, Arizona, as of 2016 still in operation as a tribal school[100]

•Thomas Indian School, near Irving, New York

•Tomah Indian School, Wisconsin[41]

•Tullahassee Mission School, Tullahassee, Creek Nation, Indian Territory opened 1850 burned 1880[101]

•Tullahassee Manual Labor School, Tullahassee, Creek Nation, Indian Territory open 1883–1914 for Creek Freedmen[101]

•Tushka Lusa Institute (later called Tuska Lusa or Tushkaloosa Academy),[77] near Talihina, Choctaw Nation, Indian Territory opened 1892 for Choctaw Freedmen[102]

•Tuskahoma Female Academy, Lyceum, Choctaw Nation, Indian Territory open 1892–1925[103]

•Wahpeton Indian School, Wahpeton, North Dakota, 1904–93. In 1993 its name was changed to Circle of Nations School and came under tribal control. Currently open.

•Wapanucka Academy (also sometimes called Allen Academy), near Bromide, Chickasaw Nation, Indian Territory Open 1851–1911 by the Presbyterian Church.[104]

•Wealaka Mission School Wealaka, Indian Territory open 1882–1907[105]

•Wewoka Mission School, (also known as Ramsey Mission School)[106] near Wewoka, Seminole Nation, Indian Territory Open 1868[107]–80[108] by the Presbyterian Mission Board.[80]

•Wheelock Academy, Millerton, Oklahoma[27] closed 1955

•White’s Manual Labor Institute, Wabash, Indiana Open 1870[109]–95 and operated by the Quakers[110]

•White’s Manual Labor Institute, West Branch, Iowa,[111] open 1881–87[112]

•Wetumka Boarding School, Wetumka, Creek Nation, Indian Territory Levering Manual Labor School transferred from the Baptists to the Muscogee (Creek) Nation in 1891 and they changed the name to the Wetumka Boarding School. Operated until 1910.[74]

•Wittenberg Indian School, Wittenberg, Wisconsin[41]

•Yellow Springs School, Pontotoc County, Chickasaw Nation, Indian Territory[113] open 1896–1905[25]

  • Elliott Academy (formerly Oak Hill Industrial Academy), near Valliant, Oklahoma, 1912–36[58]

•El Meta Bond College, Minco, Chickasaw Nation, Indian Territory, open 1890–1919[59]

•Emahaka Mission, Wewoka, Seminole Nation, Indian Territory open 1894–1911[60]

•Euchee Boarding School, Sapulpa, Creek Nation, Indian Territory[27]open 1894–1947[61]

•Eufaula Dormitory, Eufaula, Oklahoma name changed from Eufaula High School in 1952.[62] Still in operation[63]

•Eufaula Indian High School, Eufaula, Creek Nation, Indian Territory[27]replaced the burned Asbury Manual Labor School.[34] Open in 1892[63]–1952, when the name changed to Eufaula Dormitory[62]

•Flandreau Indian School, South Dakota[41]

•Folsom Training School, near Smithville, Oklahoma open 1921[64]–32, when it became an all-white school[65]

•Fort Bidwell School, Fort Bidwell, California[41]

•Fort Coffee Academy, Fort Coffee, Choctaw Nation, Indian Territory Open 1840–63 and run by the Methodist Episcopal Church, South[50]

•Fort Shaw Indian School, Fort Shaw, Montana[41]

•Fort Sill Indian School (originally known as Josiah Missionary School), near Fort Sill, Indian Territory opened in 1871 by the Quakers,[66]remained open until 1980[67]

•Fort Totten Indian Industrial School, Fort Totten, North Dakota. Boarding and Indian Industrial School in 1891–1935. Became a Community and Day School from 1940 to 1959. Now a Historic Site run by the State Historic Society of North Dakota.

•Genoa Indian Industrial School, Genoa, Nebraska

•Goodland Academy & Indian Orphanage, Hugo, Oklahoma[27]

•Greenville School, California[41]

•Hampton Institute, began accepting Native students in 1878

•Harley Institute, near Tishomingo, Chickasaw Nation, Oklahoma Prior to 1889 was known as the Chickasaw Academy and was operated by the Methodist Episcopal Church until 1906.[46]

•Haskell Indian Industrial Training School, Lawrence, Kansas, 1884–present[42]

•Hayward Indian School, Hayward, Wisconsin[41]

•Hillside Mission School, near Skiatook, Cherokee Nation, Indian Territory open 1884[68]–1908 by the Quakers[69]

•Holbrook Indian School, Holbrook, Arizona[41]

•Ignacio Boarding School, Colorado[41]

•Iowa Mission School, near Fallis, Iowa Reservation, Indian Territory open 1890–93 by the Quakers[70]

•Intermountain Indian School, Utah

•Jones Academy, Hartshorne, Choctaw Nation, Indian Territory/Oklahoma[27] Opened in 1891[71]

•Koweta Mission School Coweta, Creek Nation, Indian Territory open 1843–61[72]

•Levering Manual Labor School, Wetumka, Creek Nation, Indian Territory Open 1882[73]–91, operated by the Southern Baptist Convention.[74]

•Many Farms High School, near Many Farms, Arizona

•Marty Indian School, Marty, South Dakota

•Mekasukey Academy, near Seminole, Seminole Nation, Indian Territory open 1891–1930[75]

•Morris Industrial School for Indians, Morris, Minnesota,[76] open 1887–1909

•Mount Edgecumbe High School, Sitka, Alaska, established as a BIA school, now operated by the State of Alaska

•Mount Pleasant Indian Industrial Boarding School, Mount Pleasant, Michigan,[27] 1893–1934

•Murray State School of Agriculture, Tishomingo, Oklahoma,[27] est. 1908

•Nenannezed Boarding School, New Mexico[41]

•New Hope Academy, Fort Coffee, Choctaw Nation, Indian Territory Open 1844 [50]–96[77] and run by the Methodist Episcopal Church, South[50]

•Nuyaka School and Orphanage (Nuyaka Mission, Presbyterian), Okmulgee, Creek Nation, Indian Territory,[27] 1884–1933

•Oak Hill Industrial Academy, near Valliant, Choctaw Nation, Indian Territory Open 1878[78]–1912 by the Presbyterian Mission Board. The Choctaw freedmen’s academy was renamed as the Elliott Academy (aka Alice Lee Elliott Memorial Academy) in 1912.[79]

•Oak Ridge Manual Labor School, near Holdenville, Indian Territory in the Seminole Nation. Open 1848–60s by the Presbyterian Mission Board.[80]

•Oklahoma Presbyterian College for Girls, Durant, Oklahoma[27]

•Oklahoma School for the Blind, Muskogee, Oklahoma[27]

•Oklahoma School for the Deaf, Sulphur, Oklahoma[27]

•Oneida Indian School, Wisconsin[41]

•Osage Boarding School, Pawhuska, Osage Nation, Indian Territory open 1874–1922[81]

•Park Hill Mission School, Park Hill Indian Territory/Oklahoma opened 1837[82]

•Pawnee Boarding School, Pawnee, Indian Territory, open 1878–1958[83]

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•Absentee Shawnee Boarding School, near Shawnee, Indian Territory open 1893–99[25][26]

•Albuquerque Indian School, Albuquerque, New Mexico[27]

•Anadarko Boarding School, Anadarko, Oklahoma open 1911–33[28]

•Arapaho Manual Labor and Boarding School, Darlington, Indian Territory opened in 1872 and paid with by federal funds,[29] but run by the Hicksite (Liberal) Friends and Orthodox Quakers.[30] Moved to Concho Indian Boarding School in 1909.[31]

•Armstrong Academy, near Chahta Tamaha, Indian Territory

•Asbury Manual Labor School, near Fort Mitchell, Alabama open 1822–30[32][33] by the United Methodist Missions.[32]

•Asbury Manual Labor School, near Eufaula, Creek Nation, Indian Territory, open 1850–88 by the United Methodist Missions.[34]

•Bacone College, Muscogee, Oklahoma,[27] 1881–present

•Bloomfield Female Academy, originally near Achille, Chickasaw Nation, Indian Territory. Opened in 1848 but relocated to Ardmore, Oklahoma around 1917 and in 1934 was renamed Carter Seminary.[35]

•Bond’s Mission School or Montana Industrial School for Indians, run by Unitarians, Crow Indian Reservation near Custer Station, Montana, 1886–97 [36]

•Burney Institute, near Lebanon, Chickasaw Nation, Indian Territory open 1854–87 when name changed to Chickasaw Orphan Home and Manual Labor School and operated by the Cumberland Presbyterian Church.[37]

•Cameron Institute, Cameron, Choctaw Nation, Indian Territory open 1893–early 20th century, was operated by the Presbyterian Church[38]

•Cantonment Indian Boarding School, Canton, Indian Territory run by the General Conference Mennonites[39] from September, 1882 to 1 July 1927[40]

•Carlisle Indian School, Carlisle, Pennsylvania,[41] open 1879–1918[42]

•Carter Seminary, Ardmore, Oklahoma 1917–2004 when the facility moved to Kingston, Oklahoma and was renamed the Chickasaw Children’s Village.[43]

•Chamberlain Indian School, Chamberlain, South Dakota[41]

•Chemawa Indian School, Salem, Oregon[27]

•Cherokee Female Seminary, Tahlequah, Cherokee Nation, Indian Territory open 1851–1910[44]

•Cherokee Male Seminary, Tahlequah, Cherokee Nation, Indian Territory open 1851–1910[44]

•Cherokee Orphan Asylum, Tahlequah, Cherokee Nation, Indian Territory opened in 1871[45]

•Cheyenne-Arapaho Boarding School, Darlington, Indian Territory opened 1871[30] became the Arapaho Manual Labor and Boarding School in 1879[29]

•Cheyenne Manual Labor and Boarding School, Caddo Springs, Indian Territory, opened 1879 and paid with by federal funds,[29] but run by the Hicksite (Liberal) Friends and Orthodox Quakers.[30] Moved to Concho Indian Boarding School in 1909.[31]

•Chickasaw (male) Academy, near Tishomingo, Chickasaw Nation, Oklahoma Opened in 1850 by the Methodist Episcopal Church and changed its name to Harley Institute around 1889.[46]

•Chickasaw Children’s Village, on Lake Texoma near Kingston, Oklahoma opened 2004[43]

•Chickasaw National Academy, near Stonewall, Chickasaw Nation, Indian Territory Open about 1865 to 1880[47]

•Chickasaw Orphan Home and Manual Labor School (formerly Burney Academy) near Lebanon, Chickasaw Nation, Indian Territory open 1887–1906[48]

•Chilocco Indian Agricultural School, Chilocco, Oklahoma, open 1884–1980[49]

•Chinle Boarding School, Many Farms, Arizona[41]

•Chuala Female Seminary (also known as the Pine Ridge Mission School), near Doaksville, Choctaw Nation, Indian Territory open 1838–61[50][51] by the Presbyterian Church[50]

•Circle of Nations Indian School [3], Wahpeton, North Dakota[41]

•Colbert Institute, Perryville, Choctaw Nation, Indian Territory open 1852–57 by the Methodist Episcopal Church, South[52]

•Collins Institute, near Stonewall, Chickasaw Nation, Indian Territory Open about 1885 to 1905[47]

•Concho Indian Boarding School, Concho, Oklahoma open 1909–83[53][54]

•Creek Orphan Asylum, Okmulgee, Creek Nation, Indian Territory opened 1895[55][56]

•Darlington Mission School, Darlington, Indian Territory run by the General Conference Mennonites from 1881 to 1902[57]

•Dwight Mission, Marble City, Oklahoma[27]

•Phoenix Indian School, Phoenix, Arizona[27]

•Pierre Indian School, Pierre, South Dakota[41]

•Pine Ridge Boarding School, Pine Ridge, South Dakota

•Pine Ridge Mission School, near Doaksville, Choctaw Nation, Indian Territory see Chuala Female Seminary

•Pinon Boarding School, Pinon, Arizona[41]

•Pipestone Indian School, Pipestone, Minnesota[41]

•Quapaw Industrial Boarding School, Quapaw Agency Indian Territory open 1872–1900[84]

•Rainy Mountain Boarding School, near Gotebo, Kiowa-Comanche-Apache Reservation, Indian Territory, open 1893–1920[85]

•Rapid City Indian School, Rapid City, South Dakota[41]

•Red Moon School, near Hammon, Indian Territory open 1897–1922[86]

•Riverside Indian School, Anadarko, Oklahoma open 1871–present[87]

•Sac and Fox Boarding School, near Stroud, Indiant Territory, open 1872[88]–1919[89] by the Quakers[88]

•Sacred Heart College, near Asher, Potowatamie Nation, Indian Territory open 1884–1902[90]

•Sacred Heart Institute, near Asher, Potowatamie Nation, Indian Territory open 1880–1929[90]

•St. Agnes Academy, Ardmore, Oklahoma[27]

•St. Agnes Mission, Antlers, Oklahoma[27]

•St. Boniface Indian School, Banning, California[91]

•St. Elizabeth’s Boarding School, Purcell, Oklahoma[27]

•St. John’s Boarding School, Gray Horse, Osage Nation, Indian Territory open 1888–1913 and operated by the Bureau of Catholic Indian Missions[92]

•St. Joseph’s Boarding School, Chickasha, Oklahoma[27]

•St. Mary’s Academy, near Asher, Potowatamie Nation, Indian Territory open 1880–1946[90]

•St. Louis Industrial School, Pawhuska, Osage Nation, Indian Territory open 1887–1949 and operated by the Bureau of Catholic Indian Missions[92]

•St. Mary’s Boarding School, Quapaw Agency Indian Territory/Oklahoma open 1893–1927[93]

•St. Patrick’s Mission and Boarding School, Anadarko, Indian Territory open 1892[94]–1909 by the Bureau of Catholic Indian Missions. It was rebuilt and called the Anadarko Boarding School.[28]

•San Juan Boarding School, New Mexico[41]

•Santa Fe Indian School, Santa Fe, New Mexico

•Sasakwa Female Academy, Sasakwa, Seminole Nation, Indian Territory open 1880–92 and run by the Methodist Episcopal Church, South[80]

•Seger Indian Training School, Colony, Indian Territory[41]

•Seneca, Shawnee, and Wyandotte Industrial Boarding School, Wyandotte, Indian Territory[27]

•Sequoyah High School, Tahlequah, Cherokee Nation, Indian Territory[27]

Our Spirituality is Faith in A Warrior Creator

We look back at our story so we can heal and then move forward to strength and renewal.

As you pray and practice your rituals today, can you connect to the Warrior strength in you to recover? To love your family and your people? Will you permit the Warrior Spirit to move you to the Creator, a wellbriety meeting, a healthy friendship, and your therapist to overcome and stay sober?

Look at the first of The Seven Philosophies for Native American women. You will see the Warrior emerge in this story.

Seven Philosophies for Native American Women: #1

You are sacred.

You are the life giver.

You were born to be absolutely worthy of all.

You are a spiritual being as well as a human being.

Here are some beautiful passages from the Red Road on connecting with the Warrior Creator.

-1- Rise with the sun to pray. Pray alone. Pray often. The Great Spirit will listen, if only you speak.

Bison, White (2012-04-23). The Red Road to Wellbriety: In The Native American Way (Kindle Locations 4715-4716).  . Kindle Edition.

I am loved. (The Warrior) Creator loves me, and so, I can love others and not be afraid of what I’m not, or what I am, or about what’s coming around the next corner. I can feel the Creator’s breath on my cheek, and I can feel the heartbeat of the Creation beneath my heart. Is life perfect? Not yet, but life is good. It’s about progress….And progress comes a step at a time as I follow this path I have been given to walk on this living Circle. Wa’do

Bison, White (2012-04-23). The Red Road to Wellbriety: In The Native American Way (Kindle Locations 4592-4598).   Kindle Edition.

6-The (Warrior) Creator: Relationship with the (Warrior) Creator is the sixth principle that is a focus of Indian life. As Indian people, our tribes or Nations have hundreds of different words in our own languages signifying what we mean when we say Creator. I realize we make no gains without the Great Spirit being in our lives. Neither I, nor anything we do, will work without our Creator. Being Indian and being spiritual has the same meaning. Spirituality is our gift from the Great One. This day, I vow to walk the Red Road. As an Indian man, woman, or youth I will return to the traditional and spiritual values that have guided my ancestors for the past generations. I will look with new eyes on the powers of our ceremonies and religious ways, for they are important to the very survival of our people. We have survived and are going to grow and flourish spiritually. We will fulfill our teachings and the purpose that the Creator has given us with dignity. Each day, I will pray and ask for guidance. I will commit to walk the Red Road, or whatever the spiritual way is called in my own culture. If I am Christian, I will be a good one. If I am traditional, I will walk this road with dedication. If each of us can do these things then others will follow. From this day forward, I will reserve time and energy for spirituality, seeking to know the (Warrior) Creator’s will.

Bison, White (2012-04-23). The Red Road to Wellbriety: In The Native American Way (Kindle Locations 4674-4688).  . Kindle Edition.

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Money and the Bible

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Money. Supreme value. Treasure. Security.

This article looks at the Biblical conversation of money. Why is money such a big deal?

Why does money corrupt like few other truths? Why does money fall as the top two reasons for divorce?

Why did 10,000 people commit suicide over money during the Great Recession?

The offspring of the first family in Genesis melted down over money. Cain and Abel brought their finest to God as offerings, a symbol of love and respect. Abel brought the best of his resources, Cain brought second rate thrift shop baubles.

The result? Murder.  Cain felt rage over the adulation Abel received for the premium five star gift…Cain’s bargain brand last minute clearance table offering was clearly a symbol of shame and ingratitude.  The result? Brother kills brother in cold blood.

Judas operated as Jesus’ Chief Financial Officer.  Judas kept the books and money while cheating the ministry.  Judas’ last act was in real estate. He bought a field and committed suicide on the property.  All this for…a corrupt spirituality of betrayal mingled with money.

World War 2 was waged in part over money. The Allies wreaked revenge for WW1 atrocities by shaming the Germans with the Guilt Clause worth about 400 billion in today’s market.  The pressure of the tax and the pain of depression era economics gave Hitler fuel to press for war. 70 million people died worldwide. In part…over money.

Let’s look at some Scriptures about money and see if we can get some clarity. The passages we will examine connect to what and whom we love or where our heart locates.

Genesis 4 New International Version

Cain and Abel

Adam[a] made love to his wife Eve, and she became pregnant and gave birth to Cain.[b] She said, “With the help of the Lord I have brought forth[c] a man.” Later she gave birth to his brother Abel.

Now Abel kept flocks, and Cain worked the soil. In the course of time Cain brought some of the fruits of the soil as an offering to the Lord. And Abel also brought an offering—fat portions from some of the firstborn of his flock. The Lord looked with favor on Abel and his offering, but on Cain and his offering he did not look with favor. So Cain was very angry, and his face was downcast.

Then the Lord said to Cain, “Why are you angry? Why is your face downcast? If you do what is right, will you not be accepted? But if you do not do what is right, sin is crouching at your door; it desires to have you, but you must rule over it.”

Now Cain said to his brother Abel, “Let’s go out to the field.”[d] While they were in the field, Cain attacked his brother Abel and killed him.

Deuteronomy 15:7

7 If anyone is poor among your fellow Israelites in any of the towns of the land the LORD your God is giving you, do not be hardhearted or tightfisted toward them.

2 Chronicles 1:11-12

11 God said to Solomon, “Since this is your heart’s desire and you have not asked for wealth, possessions or honor, nor for the death of your enemies, and since you have not asked for a long life but for wisdom and knowledge to govern my people over whom I have made you king, 12 therefore wisdom and knowledge will be given you. And I will also give you wealth, possessions and honor, such as no king who was before you ever had and none after you will have.”

Ecclesiastes 5:10

10 Whoever loves money never has enough; whoever loves wealth is never satisfied with their income. This too is meaningless.

Matthew 6:21

21 For where your treasure is, there your heart will be also.

Matthew 6:24

24 “No one can serve two masters. Either you will hate the one and love the other, or you will be devoted to the one and despise the other. You cannot serve both God and money.
Matthew 26:14-15
Then one of the twelve, who was called Judas Iscariot, went to the chief priests and said, “What will you give me if I deliver him to you?” And they paid him thirty pieces of silver. And from that moment he sought an opportunity to betray him. 

Luke 16:13-15

13 “No one can serve two masters. Either you will hate the one and love the other, or you will be devoted to the one and despise the other. You cannot serve both God and money.” 14 The Pharisees, who loved money, heard all this and were sneering at Jesus. 15 He said to them, “You are the ones who justify yourselves in the eyes of others, but God knows your hearts. What people value highly is detestable in God’s sight.
John 12:5-6
Mary Anoints Jesus
5“Why wasn’t this perfume sold for three hundred denarii and the money given to the poor?” 6Judas did not say this because he cared about the poor, but because he was a thief. As keeper of the money bag, he used to take from what was put into it. 7“Leave her alone,” Jesus replied. “She was intended to keep this perfume to prepare for the day of My burial.…
John 13.29
Since Judas had charge of the money, some thought Jesus was telling him to buy what was needed for the festival, or to give something to the poor.
Acts1:18-19
17He was one of our number and shared in this ministry.” 18( With the reward of his wickedness Judas bought a field, and falling headlong, he burst open in the middle and all his intestines spilled out. 19This became known to all who lived in Jerusalem; so they called that field in their own language Akeldama, that is, Field of Blood.)…

Romans 13:8

8 Let no debt remain outstanding, except the continuing debt to love one another, for whoever loves others has fulfilled the law.
Colossians 3:5
5 Put to death, therefore, whatever belongs to your earthly nature: sexual immorality, impurity, lust, evil desires and greed, which is idolatry.

1 Timothy 6:10

10 For the love of money is a root of all kinds of evil. Some people, eager for money, have wandered from the faith and pierced themselves with many griefs.

Hebrews 13:5

5 Keep your lives free from the love of money and be content with what you have, because God has said, “Never will I leave you; never will I forsake you.”\
Each of these passages connect money with whom and what we love.The first motive for murder was money and the rage it can ire.  God gives to us we are to be like minded. Solomon’s heart beat for his people and not cash receipts. Loving wealth leaks contentment. The heart is where treasure lies. Show me the money and I show you my heart.  One cannot serve money as priority. The first devotion is God who detests greed. The love we have for another encourages a debt free budget.  If I go in debt does this mean my love diminishes? Greed is worship.  An Affair with money builds the foundation for failure.  Money gnaws at the roots of faith and brings grief. God is our most sincere attachment…not money.
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Este artículo analiza la conversación bíblica sobre el dinero. ¿Por qué el dinero es tan importante?

¿Por qué el dinero corrompe como pocas verdades? ¿Por qué el dinero cae entre las dos razones principales para el divorcio?

¿Por qué 10.000 personas se suicidaron por dinero durante la Gran Recesión?

La descendencia de la primera familia en Génesis se derrumbó por el dinero. Caín y Abel trajeron lo mejor de sí mismos a Dios como ofrendas, símbolo de amor y respeto. Abel trajo lo mejor de sus recursos, Cain trajo chucherías de tiendas de segunda mano.

¿El resultado? Asesinato. Cain sintió rabia por la adulación que recibió Abel por el regalo de cinco estrellas de primera calidad… La oferta de la mesa de liquidación de última hora de la marca de ganga de Cain fue claramente un símbolo de vergüenza e ingratitud. ¿El resultado? Hermano mata a hermano a sangre fría.

Judas actuó como director financiero de Jesús. Judas se quedó con los libros y el dinero mientras engañaba al ministerio. El último acto de Judas fue en bienes raíces. Compró un campo y se suicidó en la propiedad. Todo esto por… una espiritualidad corrupta de traición mezclada con dinero.

La Segunda Guerra Mundial se libró en parte por dinero. Los Aliados se vengaron de las atrocidades de la Primera Guerra Mundial al avergonzar a los alemanes con la Cláusula de Culpabilidad por un valor aproximado de 400 mil millones en el mercado actual. La presión de los impuestos y el dolor de la economía de la era de la depresión le dieron a Hitler combustible para presionar por la guerra. 70 millones de personas murieron en todo el mundo. En parte… por dinero.

Miremos algunas Escrituras sobre el dinero y veamos si podemos obtener algo de claridad. Los pasajes que examinaremos se conectan con qué y a quién amamos o dónde se ubica nuestro corazón.

Génesis 4 Nueva versión internacional

Caín y Abel

4 Adán[a] hizo el amor con su esposa Eva, y ella quedó embarazada y dio a luz a Caín.[b] Ella dijo: “Con la ayuda del Señor he dado a luz[c] a un varón”. 2 Más tarde dio a luz a su hermano Abel.

Ahora Abel cuidaba rebaños, y Caín labraba la tierra. 3 Con el transcurso del tiempo, Caín trajo algunos frutos de la tierra como ofrenda al Señor. 4 Y Abel también trajo una ofrenda, porciones de grasa de algunos de los primogénitos de su rebaño. El Señor miró con agrado a Abel y su ofrenda, 5 pero a Caín y su ofrenda no miró con agrado. Entonces Caín estaba muy enojado, y su rostro estaba abatido.

6 Entonces el Señor le dijo a Caín: “¿Por qué estás enojado? ¿Por qué tu rostro está abatido? 7 Si haces lo correcto, ¿no serás aceptado? Pero si no haces lo correcto, el pecado está agazapado a tu puerta; desea tenerte, pero tú debes gobernarlo”.

8 Entonces Caín dijo a su hermano Abel: “Salgamos al campo”. [d] Mientras estaban en el campo, Caín atacó a su hermano Abel y lo mató.

Deuteronomio 15:7

7 Si alguno es pobre entre tus hermanos israelitas en alguna de las ciudades de la tierra que el SEÑOR tu Dios te da, no seas duro de corazón ni tacaño con él.

2 Crónicas 1:11-12

11 Dios le dijo a Salomón: “Ya que este es el deseo de tu corazón y no has pedido riquezas, posesiones u honor, ni la muerte de tus enemigos, y ya que no has pedido una larga vida sino sabiduría y conocimiento para gobernar pueblo mío sobre el cual te he puesto por rey, 12 por tanto, te será dado sabiduría y conocimiento. Y también te daré riquezas, posesiones y honor, como ningún rey que hubo antes de ti jamás tuvo ni después de ti tendrá.

Eclesiastés 5:10

10 El que ama el dinero nunca se sacia; quien ama la riqueza nunca está satisfecho con sus ingresos. Esto también no tiene sentido.
Mateo 6:21

21 Porque donde esté vuestro tesoro, allí estará también vuestro corazón.

Mateo 6:24

24 “Nadie puede servir a dos señores. O aborrecerás a uno y amarás al otro, o serás devoto de uno y despreciarás al otro. No se puede servir a Dios y al dinero a la vez.

Mateo 26:14-15

Entonces uno de los doce, que se llamaba Judas Iscariote, fue a los sumos sacerdotes y les dijo: ¿Qué me daréis si os lo entrego? Y le pagaron treinta piezas de plata. Y desde ese momento buscó una oportunidad para traicionarlo.
Lucas 16:13-15

13 “Nadie puede servir a dos señores. O aborrecerás a uno y amarás al otro, o serás devoto de uno y despreciarás al otro. No se puede servir a Dios y al dinero”. 14 Los fariseos, que amaban el dinero, oyeron todo esto y se burlaban de Jesús. 15 Él les dijo: “Ustedes son los que se justifican a sí mismos ante los ojos de los demás, pero Dios conoce sus corazones. Lo que la gente valora mucho es detestable a los ojos de Dios.

Juan 12:5-6

María unge a Jesús
…5 “¿Por qué no se vendió este perfume por trescientos denarios y el dinero se dio a los pobres?” 6Judas no dijo esto porque se preocupara por los pobres, sino porque era ladrón. Como guardián de la bolsa de dinero, solía tomar de lo que se ponía en ella. 7“Déjala en paz,” respondió Jesús. “Ella estaba destinada a guardar este perfume para prepararse para el día de Mi entierro…

Juan 13.29

Como Judas estaba a cargo del dinero, algunos pensaron que Jesús le estaba diciendo que comprara lo necesario para la fiesta, o que diera algo a los pobres.

Hechos 1:18-19

…17Él era uno de los nuestros y participaba en este ministerio.” 18( Con el pago de su maldad, Judas compró un campo, y cayendo de cabeza, se reventó por la mitad y todas sus entrañas se derramaron. 19Esto fue notorio a todos los que habitaban en Jerusalén; por eso llamaron aquel campo en su propia lengua Akeldama , es decir, Campo de Sangre.)…

Romanos 13:8

8 No quede ninguna deuda pendiente, excepto la deuda permanente de amarse unos a otros, porque quien ama a los demás ha cumplido la ley.

Colosenses 3:5

5 Hagan morir, por tanto, todo lo que pertenece a su naturaleza terrenal: fornicación, impureza, lujuria, malos deseos y avaricia, que es idolatría.

1 Timoteo 6:10

10 Porque raíz de todos los males es el amor al dinero. Algunos, ávidos de dinero, se extraviaron de la fe y fueron traspasados de muchos dolores.

Hebreos 13:5

5 Mantengan sus vidas libres del amor al dinero y estén contentos con lo que tienen, porque Dios ha dicho: “Nunca los dejaré; nunca te abandonaré.”

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Cada uno de estos pasajes conecta el dinero con quién y qué amamos. El primer motivo del asesinato fue el dinero y la ira que puede provocar. Dios nos da que debemos tener una mentalidad afín. El corazón de Salomón latía por su pueblo y no por los recibos de caja. Amar la riqueza filtra la alegría. El corazón es donde yace el tesoro. Muéstrame el dinero y te muestro mi corazón. No se puede servir al dinero como prioridad. La primera devoción es Dios que detesta la codicia. El amor que tenemos por el otro fomenta un presupuesto libre de deudas. Si me endeudo, ¿significa esto que mi amor disminuye? La codicia es adoración. Una aventura con el dinero sienta las bases para el fracaso. El dinero roe las raíces de la fe y trae dolor. Dios es nuestro más sincero apego… no el dinero.