Compassion with Belief

Since boyhood, my heart has beaten compassion for Native Americans. My mother told stories of our great great grandmother, Sarah Bond, who was a Native Pawnee. Grandma Sarah had dark beautiful eyes with prominent features of the plains Natives of North America. Sarah was born in 1841 and died a century later. Mother spoke of her raven hair woven in a thick braid flowing to her waist. Grandma Sarah lived during the aftermath of the Native American genocide called the Trail of Tears, the forcible government removal of Natives from the south east to Oklahoma. 4 thousand men, women, and children were killed by the United States Government through exposure, disease, and starvation. Forced to march nearly 1000 miles through the worst winter of the era, two generations perished .The young and the very old did not survive.

My grandmother did not march on the Trail of Tears. She witnessed other atrocities. Her Pawnee community declined from 12,000 in 1830 to 3400 by 1859 when she was 18 years old. By the time she turned 60 her proud nation numbered only 633. Grandma Sarah witnessed the decline of her people and culture by 94.725% during her lifetime. Think about 9 of 10 of your friends and family perishing without a next generation to carry on.

 

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Sarah Bond

What did my Pawnee ancestors do with out the joy of boyhood wonder and belief?

How do I transform politically correct compassion to justice for the genocide of our family members? How do I personally move from heart felt empathy to cultural redemption? How do I conduct myself with the knowledge of murder and injustice at epic levels?

Cultural shift begins with compassion and belief. A great leader once said, “You must have the belief of a child.” The wonder of a boy, the passion of a man, and the belief in a God who brings truth and redemption change culture.

So, let’s examine our collective story with compassion and belief.

Understanding the genocide and dehumanization of Native Americans does not begin in the New World at Plymouth Rock. The wince of pain began in Europe. Our forefathers who sailed to and formed the 13 Colonies fled genocide and dehumanization in Europe at the hands of…political Christian parties. I enjoy writing, but I fear that my own bias and pain may dictate the following. So, I will cite the historical narrative with quotes.

“The religious persecution that drove settlers from Europe to the British North American colonies sprang from the conviction, held by Protestants and Catholics alike, that uniformity of religion must exist in any given society. This conviction rested on the belief that there was one true religion and that it was the duty of the civil authorities to impose it, forcibly if necessary, in the interest of saving the souls of all citizens. Nonconformists could expect no mercy and might be executed as heretics. The dominance of the concept, denounced by Roger Williams as “inforced uniformity of religion,” meant majority religious groups who controlled political power punished dissenters in their midst. In some areas Catholics persecuted Protestants, in others Protestants persecuted Catholics, and in still others Catholics and Protestants persecuted wayward coreligionists. Although England renounced religious persecution in 1689, it persisted on the European continent. Religious persecution, as observers in every century have commented, is often bloody and implacable and is remembered and resented for generations.”

Do you see it? Theological exclusivism of political Christian parties imposed the saving of souls through violence.

A warrior from the Viet Nam war era said to me, “You must first dehumanize your enemy before you do what you do to them.”

I suggest that the theological exclusivism of European Christianity drove a violence fueled by dehumanization. Again, let’s examine the historical narrative.

“David van der Leyen and Levina Ghyselins, described variously as Dutch Anabaptists or Mennonites, by Catholic authorities in Ghent in 1554 were strangled and burned. Van der Leyen was finally dispatched with an iron fork. Bracht’s Martyr’s Mirror is considered by modern Mennonites as second only in importance to the Bible in perpetuating their faith.

Jesuits like John Ogilvie (Ogilby) (1580-1615) were under constant surveillance and threat from the Protestant governments of England and Scotland. Ogilvie was sentenced to death by a Glasgow court and hanged and mutilated on March 10, 1615.

On October 31, 1731, the Catholic ruler of Salzburg, Austria, Archbishop Leopold von Firmian, issued an edict expelling as many as 20,000 Lutherans from his principality. Many propertyless Lutherans, given only eight days to leave their homes, froze to death as they drifted through the winter seeking sanctuary. The wealthier ones who were allowed three months to dispose of their property fared better. Some of these Salzburgers reached London, from whence they sailed to Georgia. Others found new homes in the Netherlands and East Prussia.

The slaughter of Huguenots (French Protestants) by Catholics at Sens, Burgundy in 1562 occurred at the beginning of more than thirty years of religious strife between French Protestants and Catholics. These wars produced numerous atrocities. The worst was the notorious St. Bartholomew’s Day Massacre in Paris, August 24, 1572. Thousands of Huguenots were butchered by Roman Catholic mobs. Although an accommodation between the two sides was sealed in 1598 by the Edict of Nantes, religious privileges of Huguenots eroded during the seventeenth century and were extinguished in 1685 by the revocation of the Edict. Perhaps as many as 400,000 French Protestants emigrated to various parts of the world, including the British North American colonies.

Huguenots at least matched the harshness of the persecutions of their Catholic opponents. In a period propaganda piece, a priest is disemboweled, his entrails wound up on a stick until they are torn out. In another illustration a priest is buried alive, and Catholic children are hacked to pieces. In another propaganda piece, alleged to have occurred in the village of Mans, was “too loathsome” for one nineteenth-century commentator to translate from the French. It shows a priest whose genitalia were cut off and grilled. Forced to eat his roasted private parts, the priest was then dissected by his torturers so they can observe him digesting his meal.

Irish Catholics of approximately one hundred Protestants from Loughgall Parish, County Armagh, at the bridge over the River Bann near Portadown, Ulster were slaughtered. This atrocity occurred at the beginning of the Irish Rebellion of 1641. Having held the Protestants as prisoners and tortured them, the Catholics drove them “like hogs” to the bridge, where they were stripped naked and forced into the water below at swordspoint. Survivors of the plunge were shot.

Puritans were English Protestants who wished to reform and purify the Church of England of what they considered to be unacceptable residues of Roman Catholicism. In the 1620s leaders of the English state and church grew increasingly unsympathetic to Puritan demands. They insisted that the Puritans conform to religious practices that they abhorred, removing their ministers from office and threatening them with “extirpation from the earth” if they did not fall in line. Zealous Puritan laymen received savage punishments. For example, in 1630 a man was sentenced to life imprisonment, had his property confiscated, his nose slit, an ear cut off, and his forehead branded “S.S.” (sower of sedition).

Beginning in 1630 as many as 20,000 Puritans emigrated to America from England to gain the liberty to worship God as they chose. Most settled in New England, but some went as far as the West Indies. Theologically, the Puritans were “non-separating Congregationalists.” Unlike the Pilgrims, who came to Massachusetts in 1620, the Puritans believed that the Church of England was a true church, though in need of major reforms. Every New England Congregational church was considered an independent entity, beholden to no hierarchy. The membership was composed, at least initially, of men and women who had undergone a conversion experience and could prove it to other members. Puritan leaders hoped (futilely, as it turned out) that, once their experiment was successful, England would imitate it by instituting a church order modeled after the New England Way.”

A little boy who survived the 911 terror attack on the Twin Towers colored a picture of the macabre scene. He drew the towers, the smoke, the planes, and victims leaping to their deaths. He also approached the horror with compassion and belief. At the bottom of the Twin Towers where the victims fell to their deaths, he drew…trampolines. His reason? Compassion and belief. He felt empathy with belief in the future. If this pain were to happen again, the afflicted survive. Childlike compassion and belief possess the power to heal.

The perpetrators of genocide and dehumanization were victims of the same atrocities they inflicted on Native Americans. Bessel van der Kolk states that our bodies remember trauma. This sensory information stores within the immune system, specifically in memory neurons. Our bodies never forget atrocity. The trauma re enacts so the body can process the pain and recover. The murder and injustice inflicted upon European immigrants repeated against Native Americans.

What you also did not see in the drawing of the tiny 911 survivor was revenge against the terrorists. His boyhood compassion beat for the victims. His belief created a new ending. Changing culture requires compassion. Redeeming injustice with healthy belief changes the human heart. Boyhood compassion and belief begin to heal the hurt within.
http://www.pawneenation.org/page/home/pawnee-history

Post Traumatic Re enactment: Christian Persecution Re enacts in Native American Genocide and Persecution

http://a.gov/exhibits/religion/rel01.html

Native American Congressional Medal of Honor Winners

Native Americans have a long history of being awarded the nation’s highest military decoration — the Medal of Honor. The Medal of Honor is bestowed “for conspicuous gallantry and intrepidity at the risk of life, above and beyond the call of duty, in actual combat against an armed enemy force.” The medal is awarded by the President of the United States on behalf of the Congress.
Of the 3,469 Medals of Honor awarded as of 2010, 28 have been awarded to Native Americans. Wikipedia

Check out this website for the names and citations of our greatest heroes.pawnee

http://www.californiaindianeducationa.org/native_american_veterans/medals_honor.html

Hope for Sexual Anorexia

Hey you guys, Friday April 21, 2017 I will host a seminar on “Hope for Sexual Anorexia”.

Sexual Anorexia, the aversion to sexual intercourse, is fear based. Specific neural pathways form during traumatic events based on terror.  Frightened by intimacy, touch, sexual contact, these neural pathways drive distance strategies from genital sexual intercourse. What follows? Shame. Relationship breakdown.  Distrust.

Current neuroscience and our experience has proven that these neural pathways can change. Unhealthy sexual behaviors can rewire and become healthy. Check out this cool video. Contact us for a consultation of…hope.

4 Neuroscience Loving Brainiacs

Psychoneuroendocrinology. 2016 Jan;63:247-53. doi: 10.1016/j.psyneuen.2015.10.002. Epub 2015 Oct 28.

HPA axis dysregulation in men with hypersexual disorder.

Abstract

Hypersexual disorder integrating pathophysiological aspects such as sexual desire deregulation, sexual addiction, impulsivity and compulsivity was suggested as a diagnosis for the DSM-5. However, little is known about the neurobiology behind this disorder. A dysregulation of the hypothalamic pituitary adrenal (HPA) axis has been shown in psychiatric disorders but has not been investigated in hypersexual disorder. The aim of this study was to investigate the function of the HPA axis in hypersexual disorder. The study includes 67 male patients with hypersexual disorder and 39 healthy male volunteers. Basal morning plasma levels of cortisol and ACTH were assessed and low dose (0.5mg) dexamethasone suppression test was performed with cortisol and ACTH measured post dexamethasone administration. Non-suppression status was defined with DST-cortisol levels ≥ 138 nmol/l. The Sexual Compulsive scale (SCS), Hypersexual disorder current assessment scale (HD:CAS), Montgomery-Åsberg Depression Scale-self rating (MADRS-S) and Childhood trauma questionnaire (CTQ), were used for assessing hypersexual behavior, depression severity and early life adversity. Patients with hypersexual disorder were significantly more often DST non-suppressors and had significantly higher DST-ACTH levels compared to healthy volunteers. The patients reported significantly more childhood trauma and depression symptoms compared to healthy volunteers. CTQ scores showed a significant negative correlation with DST-ACTH whereas SCS and HD:CAS scores showed a negative correlation with baseline cortisol in patients. The diagnosis of hypersexual disorder was significantly associated DST non-suppression and higher plasma DST-ACTH even when adjusted for childhood trauma. The results suggest HPA axis dysregulation in male patients with hypersexual disorder.

Business Plan

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North Coast Center for Healthy Sexuality and hope xp

1.1 Mission Statement

Passionately Leading Others into the Beauty of Recovery

The NCCHS mission is to become the recognized leader in its targeted market for healthy sexuality services including assessments for sex addiction, counseling, group therapy, and co occurring addiction recovery.

1.2 Services

NCCHS will render addiction treatment services to adults and children within the greater targeted community. NCCHS will also recognize revenues from ancillary services such as ongoing group therapy and government contract services as it relates to treating sex, alcohol and drug addictions.

1.3 Executive Mangement Team

NCCHS founder and CEO, Dr. Glen B. Maiden, is a 30 year marriage, family, and addiction counselor, earned a sex addiction certificate from AACC, and is a sex addiction and financial disorder professional trained by world renowned Dr. Patrick Carnes’ CSAT/CMAT treatment model.

1.4 Financial Projection

NCCHS fee schedule:

140 dollars an hour for individual treatment

150 dollars an hour for couples treatment

40 dollars an hour for group therapy

Total man hours per week: 27

1.5 Marketing Strategy

4% or 3,440 of the 86,000 people living in a 45 mile radius of NCCHS have problem sexuality. Adding the partner this means 6,880 people have addictive and coaddict behaviors.

Offering cybersex lectures and consult to non profits and businesses to promote NCCHS services.

Utilizing social media for advertising including listserv and Facebook pages.

Utilizing printed material sent to non profits and businesses.

Press releases for public speaking events.

Offering professional consult services to law enforcement.

Free online support groups

Free FMO group work

1.6 Future Strategy

NCCHS will establish centers in Washington, Astoria, Seaside, Cannon Beach, Lincoln City, Michigan, Hawaii and an online market.

1.7 Market Analysis;

NCCHS is the only healthy sexuality center on the west coast of Washington and Oregon. Cannon Beach, Seaside, and Gearhart beaches are part of the top 75 destination beaches in the world. NCCHS believes the lack of sexual health professionals and the destination reputation of the north coast beach communities will fill the void in professional sexual health therapy.

1.8 Financial Responsibility

2.0 Weekend Intensive

What you will receive: Articulate understanding of why sexuality has become unhealthy for you, a vision for intimate sexuality, assessments for sex addiction, post traumatic stress, partner survey, money obsession, a personalized plan for rebuilding relational trust, neurological rewiring, a rich support network including the top sex addiction therapists in the world, personal care, and if you wish a spiritual community of help.

3.0 Affordability

Therapy Groups

Online groups

Recovery Church

4.0 Marketing